Is the fire going out or is it burning but not for each other? What some folks think is that flirting with temptation is good for their marriage. You might hear someone say flirting is healthy. It is thought by some that temptation is ok as long as you don't go too far. The question is though is temptation stealing the romance out of your marriage?
Remember when you could barely be apart from your spouse? You would take a walk holding hands and stop for a passionate kiss. When was the last time you kissed for more than 60 seconds? Of course, back in the day, you would kiss for hours. When do you expect to get that romance and passion back?
Where do you think the competition is coming from for the romance in your marriage? Is it another person in the neighborhood? Perhaps it's someone at work or a T.V. romance?
The reality is that temptation is every where and available 24 hours a day. If you don't believe me just flip on the T.V. after midnight and scan through the channels. Then there is the almighty tempting internet. It's hard to check emails without getting an offer to find a perfect match on some dating site.
So how can you fight the temptation and help your spouse avoid giving in? Spend time developing your relationship. Make sure that your marriage is a top priority in your life. Don't let your differences push you further and further apart. You must find a way to minimize the severity of your arguments and the time it takes to get over your offenses.
If you carry past hurts and ill feelings towards each other for great lengths of time you will begin to dislike each other. Once that happens, you will find resentment and bitterness building up in your heart. Romance will have a difficult time surviving if bitterness is in your marriage.
Romance is something that you have to do and not just feel. If you sit by and wait for romance to come back into your marriage you might be seriously disappointed. If you want to lose weight you change your eating habits and exercise. If you want to get a promotion you work hard, improve your knowledge and skills and reap the rewards. Why not invest the same time and effort into building your marriage?
In conclusion, temptation is like a hot fire. If you keep your distance, you won't get burned. I would suggest that you make every effort to avoid going to places or doing things online where you are constantly in a battle with temptation. If you have too many run-ins with temptation you will eventually lose.
Help build up your marriage and there will be no room for temptation.
Credit: womanizer-psychology.blogspot.com
