In case you're thinking to yourself right now: "Should I even "call after a first date" in the first place?"
Then the answer (if you want to see her again) is hell yeah! But... you need to call after a first date in a different way than most guys do. And WHEN you call after a first date is important too...
Why?
Because you don't want to come across like you're indifferent, too cool for school or whatever you want to call it. You don't want to be seen as a player...
On the other hand, you don't want to come across too excited either because desperate little wussies scare women away faster than spiders and mice do COMBINED!
NEEDLESS TO SAY, THERE'S AN "ART" TO CALLING AFTER A FIRST DATE: CALL AFTER A FIRST DATE TOO LATE OR DON'T SAY ENOUGH AND YOU'RE SCREWED, BUT YOU'RE ALSO SCREWED WHEN YOU CALL TOO EARLY OR SAY TOO MUCH.
I don't want to put pressure on you, but the reality is that there's a fine line between the first way of screwing up and the second way. And you need to walk it to get more than a first date.
Here's how to walk that fine line, call after a first date, and get more dates with a woman WITHOUT screwing up...
WHEN TO CALL AFTER A FIRST DATE
IF YOU'RE WONDERING WHEN TO CALL AFTER A FIRST DATE TO HAVE HER BEGGING FOR MORE, IT'S NOT LATER ON THE SAME DAY YOU DATED...
No. It's the day after a first date.
That's because when she gets home after going on an amazing date with you and lies in her bed waiting to fall asleep, she'll think back to all the events that happened that day. Why? Because that's what the majority of people do at the end of the day before they fall asleep.
In her case, she'll think about how much fun she had with you and she'll wonder if you feel the same...
She'll start to wonder what it is that you feel for her in general, so she'll hope to hear more from you soon. She'll be looking forward to it...
SO BY THE TIME YOU CALL AFTER A FIRST DATE, WHICH IS THE DAY AFTER, SHE'LL HAVE MISSED YOU LIKE CRAZY. SHE'LL BE EXCITED TO GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER.
And that's always better than never hearing from her again because she found out you were a total wussbag because you called her too fast...
OR never hearing from her again because she thinks you're a player because you call after a first date wayyyyy too late, wouldn't you agree?
HOW TO CALL AFTER A FIRST DATE TO GET A SECOND ONE
NOW LET'S CHECK OUT SOME THINGS YOU CAN SAY WHEN YOU CALL AFTER A FIRST DATE TO GET A SECOND DATE AND MORE, SHALL WE?
As I mentioned before, there's a fine line between showing TOO MUCH interest and showing TOO LITTLE interest after a first date... and you need to take that into account when you think of things to say when you "call after a first date":
- When you call her, tell her you had a great time and try to give her a specific reason why. This shows you have a genuine interest in her and women want that in a man.
- Don't be greedy and immediately ask for a second date though, because that's showing too much interest. Tell her you're kind of busy right now and just wanted to call and say "Hi."
- This gets her in a "he loves me, he loves me not" mind state because she's not sure if you like her when you say that, because every single guy she's met so far chased her long and intensively while you haven't so far.
WHEN YOU CALL AFTER A FIRST DATE AND FOLLOW THESE STEPS, KEEP TALKING FOR A COUPLE MINUTES AND THEN HANG UP.
Whenever you feel like going on a second date, all you have to do at this point is call her and ask her out. Why? Because you made sure she doesn't see you as a player (by showing a genuine interest in her) AND not as a desperate loser (by not being too greedy and by not calling her a couple hours after the first date).
MORE ON HOW TO CALL AFTER A FIRST DATE AND CALLING WOMEN...
LET'S BE REAL FOR A SECOND HERE: YOU MIGHT HAVE WON THE BATTLE BUT YOU STILL NEED TO WIN THE WAR WHEN YOU CALL AFTER A FIRST DATE LIKE I JUST TOLD YOU.
Because you still need to keep her attracted to you until the second date and you still need to ask her out to go on that second date. That may sound difficult at first, but you know what?
The free tips inside my Calling Women and Texting Women Newsletter help you get there. They'll show you what to say to her over the phone and via text to attract her even more... to have her begging for more... to have her hoping and waiting for that second date!
So sign up and get those tips okay? They're free anyway, so there's no reason not to
Anyways, it's time for me to shut up and let you practice with my tips for how to call after a first date. This horror junkie wants to watch himself some True Blood anyhow... so I don't mind telling you to grab your phone and start honing your "phone game" skills RIGHT NOW.
I hope you liked my tips for when and how to "call after a first date"!
To More Dating Success,
Carlos Xuma
Win With Women
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