So lets get started, shall we?
Most people (and I know I generalise) think that dreaming along, setting your goals, and doing nothing will bring them somewhere.
It won't happen. You still need to have an actionplan. And, you still need to take action. Massive action supports success.
Do more than the average aside of you and you can succeed. I said, you can. It is not a sure-win success fomula.
But what you can also do is looking to others, learn, what they do. Model them as much as possible. That is why people read business books. To learn from others. Or self-help books. To see how it can be done. The challenge with those books? I tell you, but don't tell anybody else - these books don't show you how to do all the things - the process of doing things is missing.
Business Week has a series on competition, currently.
In one of the articles, they describe the exhaustive work of talented musicians in a music school.
Listen to this:
"Students must be awake and practicing by 8:30 a.m., and they must spend five hours a day in their tiny, un-air-conditioned bedrooms in individual practice. There's no lake to swim in, few extracurricular activities, and only five working phones. Galamian built the camp with as few distractions from music as possible." That is hard work, isn't it?
Next, in order to succeed, besides your own hard work, one needs to refine the skills - speak: break the habits or the patterns.
One girl says that one day, she fall on her shoulder, while jogging. "It hurt so much I could only play with the shoulder very far back. [I realized] that was where my shoulder should be." Everything, even an injury, leads her to examine how she plays."
And of course, where there is success there are scientists to measure it to find differences between the "normal being" and the "unusual one" (dare I say unhuman?):
"In one study, researchers led by Florida State University professor K. Anders Ericsson studied musicians at a Berlin conservatory. Students were divided into three skill levels, including one the faculty had identified as having the best chance of becoming world-class soloists. The researchers had the students keep diaries of their schedules and looked at such information as when they started playing and their practice habits as children."
Ericsson says that "The only striking difference between experts and amateurs is in this capability to deliberately practice." The group even determined the number of hours musicians must play to compete at the highest professional level -- about 10,000, the equivalent of practicing four hours a day, every day, for almost seven years."
That is how long it can take, does it?
And there is one more: "Psychologists found a second attribute in elite players that is less obvious than sheer hours of practice. While most of us think of practice as the repetition of tough spots (and this is how many young people do practice), elite musicians, they found, took a different approach. They were intensely self-critical, identifying weaknesses at an incredibly detailed level. They examined the pattern in which they put their fingers down, the way their muscles tensed -- and they continually experimented with ways to improve. In other words, they were not only musically creative, they were creative about solving problems."
And now it comes to one more point:
"This is what the teachers at Meadowmount call "knowing how to practice," something Galamian helped pioneer. In his classic violin exercise book he breaks playing into several dozen fundamental skills. Each exercise is a targeted workout, a particular rhythm in the bow or finger pattern. Once all of these are mastered, the reasoning goes, you will have a complete set of skills to play any piece with relative ease. Says Ronald Copes, a violinist with the Juilliard String Quartet who had lessons with Galamian in the 1960s: "Meadowmount was training in how to listen, and methodically figuring out how to train yourself to reach what you were hearing in your head." Ronald Lantz, a professional violinist who also studied with Galamian, says he found he "could learn passages in 10 minutes that used to take me three weeks."
See that? Something that takes long can take a short while, if duplicated correctly. As I said - model them. How do you do that? Well, the story is not really told in the article.
But NLP states that it is also important to find out, what the person that you model thinks, sees, believes, feels, hears, when he or she is doing their practice. How do they hold their body? What is going on in their mind? What do they believe, when they do the exercise?
Once you have that - you can start to follow, imitate and get good at it. So good, that you might be better than the original creator.
So - what kind of behaviour are you model today? Look around you and find someone who can do what you want to do. And then, start talking to the person, how they do it. Follow their advice and you will succeed. But practice until you get it. It doesn't need to be that long until you get it. Because you can do it, because you are also a magnificent being.
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