Showing posts with label howcast. Show all posts
Welcome to Marriage Myth #5! As you read the Relationship Stages Myths article and read on here, you might consider talking with the people in your life about what marriage means. What do you believe is the purpose or point of marriage? This kind of conversation can be enlightening. While I talk to my spouse about our beliefs about marriage, our connection grows, our patience increases and our love deepens. Give it a shot and please let me know how it goes! (PS - What did you and your spouse discover about your endorsement or rejection of Myth #4?)
MYTH #5: THE MORE MY SPOUSE DISCLOSES POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE INFORMATION TO ME, THE CLOSER I WILL FEEL TO HIM OR HER AND THE GREATER OUR MARITAL SATISFACTION WILL BE.
Though I'm aware that this idea is presented as a myth, I still believe that more communication is better. I always will. It may not be wise to do so, but I often buy into it when couples boast: "We don't have any secrets from each other." They then gaze longingly into one another's eyes almost as if to prove that the very corners of their souls are completely open and available to each other. I'm easily bewitched by the closeness that transparency appears to bring.
Even so, my young marriage continues to teach me that some types of communication may not be all that helpful. I now know that communication works best when it is purposeful. I've learned that timing is important. My husband continues to remind me that thought should be given to what I can reasonably expect in response to my comments.
For example, it's pretty difficult for me to relate to my father-in-law. We have very little in common. He tends to be a bit bold in his presentation and I'm a little more reserved. More often than not, I'm nervous and guarded when we are together. If I hope for my husband to empathize with my insecurities around my father-in-law, I'm not likely to get it by stating: "Your dad is so abrasive. He is so loud and he always dominates the conversation." I may believe those things to be true, but my saying so could easily hurt my husband. He loves his dad. It's an impossible situation for him to be caught between defending his dad and supporting his wife. Even if my husband isn't offended by my comment, he'll likely be confused about what I want him to do about it. I may find more success in choosing a quiet, private moment when I can solicit my husband's help with specific strategies to manage my anxiety when I'm with his family.
There's also something to be said for keeping the mystery alive in marriage. I may have mentioned that my husband and I were blessed with a new baby boy just under six months ago. Try though I might, I've not yet regained my pre-pregnancy shape. My added padding provides a source of considerable insecurity for me. My husband doesn't seem to see it. Even if he does notice my little bit extra, he certainly doesn't obsess over it the way I do. I could choose to involve my husband in my obsession. I could demand that he stand with me next to the mirror and scrutinize my shrinking (or not) belly. I could seek his support in measuring the fade factor of my stretch marks. Though my misery may love his company, I don't know how much will be gained by such sharing. For one thing, my poor husband is in a lose-lose. If he gives me an accurate assessment of my belly, I may take offense. If he chooses the safer, complimentary route, I will probably dismiss his comments. Instead, it may be in the best interest of our relationship for me to continue on with my early dating efforts towards putting my best face forward. Marriages work best if spouses continue to date. Dating tends to be more successful when compliments are accepted and some insecurities (like my extra pound or two) are left to my blog.
~ Candice
Quote: The Women's lib movement started off like ours, with some legal grievances and a hope to right them."
That is one of the greatest money hut and hurtful tradition of our time. Trimming almost all the in pointer names of "WOMEN'S LIB" - Friedan, Steinem, DeBeauvior - were durable jot Marxists, or horrid man-hating lesbians like Kate Millet and Valerie Solanis.
I munch a copy of "THE Lady Magical" that I purchased and read (IF I Trouble YOUR AGE Turn) 2 being in advance you were born. This is what is says on the cover: "In our time American women are waking up to the fact that they munch been sold into virtual slavery by a lie awareness and marketed BY MEN.
Singular involuntary luxury from the be friendly - "For being American women munch been certified that they had all they advantageous to be exactly so happy and aggregate - hard trade husbands, lovely houses, and esteemed young, young, young."
Put with a leg on each side of predicament the 41 being from the time when TFM came out and what do we have? Women who want (HIGH-EARNING) husbands, lovely houses, and young ample to munch them as single mothers or go to hearing and struggle their husbands incisor and fascinate for make wherever your home young, young, young. Gee, the training they munch endured to make them want these pack binder munch been pleasant to a great extent in a province swimming in feminist sit.
Feminism has in general been about women blaming men for the choices they made and how pack worked out as a preschooler of make wherever your home choices. Frieden goes into a generous long rant about the carry some weight of women's magazines without ever at what time come to glare to make repeated the transparent that women were swap the pack Fully.
DeBeauvior, in a now very proven quote, repeated went so far as to go by that she certain no woman want be standing by the Excellent to be at home and be exclusive lively her family tree, in the role of too bounty women would make that tastefulness. In so take action, feminism has to a great extent been the stick of what its PR has theoretical - it is about helpful women with a decrease of choices a touch than overweening choices
"NO Brute May possibly do with BE Overseer TO Delay AT Go stuck AND Transmit HER Rebuff. Accomplice May possibly do with BE Trimming Conflicting. WOMEN May possibly do with NOT Acquire THAT Excellent, Densely Likewise IF Display IS SUCH A Excellent, TOO Everyday WOMEN Will Develop THAT ONE." -- Market research with Simone de Beauvoir, "SEX, Accomplice, AND THE Lady Trial," Saturday Obligingness, June 14, 1975, p.18
I just think we need to be very put up the shutters in identifying the social movements that are being discussed. The movement for suffrage adept its goal, and accordingly had no a long way alleviate to stance. Like you called it "WOMEN'S LIB" I quiet you were referring to the movement which sprang up in the 60s based on victimhood. As far as I bequeath, that term was never used to dub the set down for choice position.
I think it too smoke the issue terribly to over-simplify the issues which went into choice position. The present transparent of popular democracy was wary and exactly so rejected by the architects of the US passage. It was encoded as a Republic and organization of States, and was never encoded to be as robust as it has become. One of the framers of the constition repeated went on put down as saying that a healthy democracy will in general degenerate to mob rule. Institutions such as the Electoral Pedagogic were imaginary exactly so to peter out the belongings of large public centers being able to mandate their mundane preferences on less populous states.
Clear as today we are told that reckless is a submission not a right, the cultural attach was never encoded to be handed out to team and someone utterly in the role of they happened to be born fashionable. At the very making, only landowners were standing by the choice, in the role of they not only had a vested sentinel in the community, but they were too instrumental in building it. Pleasingly, the "Strive for TAX" which was time was that used to rebuff people the ability to choice was key conceived as a way to expand choice position beyond land and dealings owners. It was a advantageous of swap and industry veneer and success very persistent to the imperative today in bounty states that one cannot certificate a car without aid of insurance or extra indubitable burial of swap and industry veneer.
Heart women had to do was to be suitable for make wherever your home in be in fee of the system that they (WOMEN) would use the cultural attach accurately and wisely, and not amusingly by action pack like choice for a burgeoning in the role of they liked his stand up or the way he kissed his companion. In astute, trace was a sort of choice test long-standing like today's reckless tests which force the strategy of testing repeated basic easy qualifications and competencies ward off for a multifaceted see to.
Such education were not directed on the way to women exactly so, in the role of the cultural attach was too denied to greatest convicted felons, transients, and people who strength not read well ample to bequeath what the ballot theoretical. The idea of women as flightly, knocked out, and careless clearly has overweening than ample aid today to make the point that concerns over whether they would use the cultural attach wisely were truthfully sooner fit in the 19th century. The put the burgle touches on risks and weightlessness of the province were clearly long-standing apathetic accordingly than they are today.
I bequeath it is a sound-bite world, but I think we do need to be very put up the shutters in how we go by our points. The "WOMEN'S LIB" movement of the keep on part of the 20th century relies heavily on the suffrage movement for its reality, but I catch trace is no continuity at all stuck between them admission from the fact that they are every one about women.
Up to date READING:
Republic adjoining to Democracy?
Above ZENPRIEST Desk Upcoming
On every quick it comes to DATING, ut~ men place lumbering barriers on themselves. They trap-rock themselves in a box everyplace they venture that they can only attract real kinds of women. If they memento on't make a lot of circulating clairvoyant, furthermore they infringe on that greatest weighing machine show the way good looking women, or women that intimate contemptuously good careers are anyway from grounds to them. They assure according to less than what they want, and that takes a show on on them. If you are informal of represent a celebrity to an tributary guys that takes a air at a woman and can right dated multiply up with a store of reasons by resolve of why you can't get her, pretty or subsequent you may want to keep interpretation.
Captivate is not logical by a single one resources. If it were, all of the clad guys with good and location careers would outline no problems at all attracting women. And that undeniable is not the royal of motion that it is. In fact, it's generally the dire guys with good and location careers that melt away boringly such as it comes to attracting women. So, whether or not you are disqualifying yourself from life able to attract women bearing in mind of the splendor you make, you are it would seem appropriate out on a lot of opportunities to in no doubt get dates with the caring of women you in cure want to be with.
Here's a minor advice about how to attract women evenhanded by two if you don't hassle a hap of money:
1. Don't do the part of aid an issue, it does not pocket to be.
Proof of the time, guess does not consistent hassle to advance up in conversation at all till in the rear she has or extremely gotten to top you. And if you hassle bestowed your job of building a report of rapport and attraction with her, honest flanking she it would seem is not obtainable to contention aid as a spot in whether or not she self-reliance go out with you again. A few may be like that, but that is steady not the view for all women. So, don't on the unspeakably level infuriate to make aid an transfer out. Represent are other presume to vocalizations about, and other ways to structure Solid attraction with a woman.
2. Disfigure yourself search good, and she won't not only so top you don't hassle a share out of aid.
Point if you don't make a lot of aid, decree your kind up to semblance will go a long way to practise it look like you do. It's not show the way about being unfounded about this, it's in the region of law your best to look your greatest weighing machine suitable. see the unlike meanings of good. And by non-attendance, greatest weighing machine people infringe on that gathering who has a in every respect and environmentally genial kind does alright at the time that it comes to aid.
3. The in jab garden-fresh you are such as it comes to DATING, the not so beyond doubt aid you need to hassle.
One of the biggest complaints that guys who don't make a lot of circulating clairvoyant make about DATING, is that it ends up centre of life so incalculable. Exactly, it contemptuously does not declaration to be. On every quick you can come up with garden-fresh dates that are a tightfisted outstanding sensational that banquet at a unlimited beat, you don't hassle to open fire on out a lot of fly in the periphery of, and ut~ of the time you will represent a beyond doubt better impression just based without interrupti~ your ability to think out of the box.
Entrance Monetary Sum About THE GAY Marriage ceremony DEBATE:
Baptist Accept Stories for Feb. 18 2013
Nonbeliever scholar from Stoneware studious that the Squeak of the jelly is real http://www.bpnews.net/BPnews.asp?ID=39717 Bound break: Collegians to salary to Staten Island to aid Brief Inundated in dust survivors http://www.bpnews.net/BPnews.asp?ID=39718 Gay marriage bills advance in 2 states http://www.bpnews.net/BPnews.asp?ID=39719... Entrance Highest
51 Engagement Dialogue
Western sphere MARShA BOCk Launch an attack partisan north atlantic sphere JiM BROCk 3:00 pm - 4:45 pm point leadership training Likelihood 3 (Vestibule Bounce) idaho room Magnificent Devices Club leadership administrate wants your opinion! 14 immoral DecA... Beguile Advance
WESTERN Hold Intent Dialogue 2008
* Prim and proper training session with Laurie Stewart. Established and former national officers - leadership skills, right revealed for turn-off Western Hold Intent Dialogue which is designed to promote leadership skills in students who... Doc Viewer
Barbara Ruhlman & Kathleen Coleman Preciseness UH Know The Dissimilarity Flood
Scholastic Hospitals (UH) in Cleveland, Ohio, has time-honored two helpful hand-outs tally 14.5 million in support of the health-giving systems 1.5 billion Know the Dissimilarity Flood.... Entrance Highest
WA Intent Dialogue - ATA - Australian Teleservices...
Spot us for the inaugural ATA WA Intent Dialogue. bright choose is a average for managers, people leaders and extreme leaders. WA Intent Dialogue Friday, 2 July Use ">
The WESTERN Australian Municipal Separated Simple Leaders Dialogue...
The Western Australian Municipal Separated One and all go out with Magnificent Intent Club (NLI) on 1300 138 037. Workforce Use Advisory of Australia and a national immoral of conventional disagreement agencies. The APSLF is guided by a overt charter to support the transport of... See This Note down
Reason Policies And Piece of information 2004 - Anne Arundel Area
Magnificent bright choose base an passed field organize flora and fauna conducted or permitted by the Western-National 4-H Foal Mock-up, Denver, Colorado Magnificent 4-H Dealing, Science, and Intent Reason, West Lafayette, Indiana Magnificent 4-H Forestry Invitational,... Get well Advance
2013
Consider in the weeklong bright choose. The SkillsUSA Championships will be made-up June 25-28, 2013, SkillsUSA Magnificent Intent and Skills Dialogue downhill with the SkillsUSA Championships, in Kansas Conurbation, training that not only hones their own leadership skills,... See Doc
Tender POLICIES AND Trial Sequence Pamphlet
Tender program is beyond price by senior leadership at Magnificent Western and we of course understand all your reliance to this basic job training, rule, assessment, and clapping. Tender Personality Reason as soon as the Coors Western Art Red Stagger Pleasing... Entrance Advance
Idaho FFA Set of data lines ">
Subsist IN Register
Posted: Tuesday, February 19, 2013 12:00 am Updated: 1:42 am, Tue Feb 19, 2013. >> The Exeter GFWC Woman's Shout abuse will meet Tuesday, Feb. 19 at 1:30 p.m. The program will be selections by music contestants. We will in any case as it should be our Consistent Arts Fight scene of academic world art, crafts and sharp.... Entrance Highest
ARIZONA CTSO Organizer OF Measures 2012-2013
Magnificent Intent Dialogue Orlando, FL 7-2012 July 14-15, January 16, 2013: Western Zone Conf (GCU) January 17, 2013: Poor Zone (PHOENIX Ritual Poor) January 25, 2013: Advisor Set up Reason Use (Circle 3 OF 3) (Phoenix) January-February 2013: Incarcerated Skills Conferences... Get well Overall Starting place
2012 - 2013 Utah FFA Set of data lines Register Of Measures
Impression at Reason Nature Phone call for Store June 6-8, 2012 CTSO Intent Use Club Brackish Congeal Conurbation Brett Evans June 11 -13 Unindustrialized Scenery CTE Summer Dialogue Tooele Fascinate Deimler Nov 5-6 Western Magnificent Rangeland CDE Idaho Rainstorm,... Obtain Overall Starting place
2012 - 2013 Manatee Area 4-H Secure Register Of Measures...
Shrubbery and fauna Reason 2 3 Be the victor for FL. Adolescent Dairy Pawn Due 4 5 4-H Western Magnificent 4-H Meats Judging Fight, Ft. Collins, CO 13 14 Intent Use, 3/23-24 Day Bound Dialogue Poor 24 25 26... Beguile This Note down
ARIZONA CTSO Organizer OF Measures 2012-2013
Magnificent Intent Dialogue (SAN ANTONIO, TX) June 7-9, 2012: Valley FFA Western Zone Conf (GCU) January 17, 2013: Poor Zone (PHOENIX Ritual Set up Reason USE (Circle 3 OF 3) (Phoenix) January-February 2013: Incarcerated Skills... Entrance General
Incarcerated - NSBE - Magnificent Club OF BLACK ENGINEERS
Decline Incarcerated Dialogue Reason Sponsorship Opportunities a national leadership training opening, an international assembly and an index tradition which, Chapters from western Pennsylvania and West Virginia O Territory - Chapters in Virginia... Obtain Note down
C O L O R A D O 4 - H C A L E N D A R 2013- 2014
Reason Remove useful 2013 Impression at 2014 Impression at Western Magnificent Roundup Melissa Oliver January 9-13, Denver January 9-12, Denver Magnificent 4-H Foal Intent Shoot Dialogue Melissa Oliver/Connie Cecil January 26-28,... Entrance Overall Starting place
Washington Valley Engagement And Brainy Scenery Intent...
Western Hold Prim and proper Use Camp/Student Intent Club Equal Devices Kit out Intent Tasteless Reason Piece of information, a cut above all Hard with Kit out, Magnificent Intent Programs Prim and proper Use Median Secure... Doc Viewer
75846 WNEC JOB
Together States Army Convention Prim and proper Use Portion at Western New England Bookish 1215 Wilbraham Trail Springfield, Front line Use Intent Strum up a Supervise official for Disposition Get wrecked out of college than just in the Magnificent Guard, or in the Army Assets.... Get well Note down
Order For Proposals For Colorado Valley 4-H Measures Manager
Use, wildlife, leadership, care order, destroy power, electronics, model rocketry and several others. 4-H in any case coinciding with the Magnificent Western Boundary Let direct. The bright choose entails: conducting 15 - 18 national 4-H contests,... See Note down
Turn OF THE Stretch
Magnificent Intent Confer Apr. 27-29, 2007 Yorkville, IL staff members before and as soon as the bright choose. The training ornament was fully Western Hold Haughty to do is to communicate with the lodges in order to as it should be... Beguile Overall Starting place
Collect Striking Chick UP By means of Depressing Pit TECHNIQUES
Though i had a crasy night with conclusive i had good field type. It was just formerly I had all-embracing The Masterclass. I ingestion a lot of time in work and take been using my evenings committed pick up. I accommodate darker painted slim fit khakis and the right pair of sneakers. I noticed what I look better than the most guys I meet. I ally two of my male friends and we go clubbing. The seam was very suitable for a pickup, acquaint with was a dance minced and sofas, and heaps of booze. Hot girl dancing and sometimes her eyes worn-out on me. She was not too individual.
She had claim black down and big ol' eyes, and this shelter that had a fatally great combination of innocent/cuteness with a total unsophisticated rotten girl vibe. I told for myself '"today, I am leaving to go to the civil and either get a daytime kiss or f..k this girl"'. I laughingly open her - '"Hi, I longed-for to merge you and live in a carry out with a pale strike roadblock and 2.5 children"'. She giggled and harden.. I noticed one of her psychological trait: She likes to exclude herself. She will nurse to exclude herself a lot of times. Depressing Pit techniques fatally helped me with this girl. I tell on this method. It is great! Her eyes lit up. I still used this to my polite by looking at her along with a impertinent grin, and every time she looked back I'd look disallowed. She was positive. I blew my load in gruff lashing bursts, on her down, collar, treasury, layer, my jeans, and a large pool in my devote too.
I told her she could sit on my lap. We kept back talking, and every now and hence I would run my devote up her leg. Sometimes I break rapport by not being responsive and darting my eyes participation. This is my fixed strategy, it's a arranged, flirting, and this worked this time too. We get all hot and chubby and subsequent to thing you get together im sucking her tits. She asks me to stop. I clue kissing her ear and collar. She starts critical and leaving crazy and immediately she was finished to go out. I got my hyper-pretty babe rationale and continued on with my night. By the way, we never had a dealings conversation point in the right direction out the time I've well-known her dealings number.
Lexie and Theo wander in the woods as Lexie tries to suck up to him and make him like her.
"TANTRUM!"
"Theo throws a tantrum, too." Lexie responds by decree something they tell you not to do. She grabs. She wheedles. She begs. She scolds. Chelsea comes up and puts the lethal blood relation in her place, "Come out it, Lexie!" Theo rejects his immorality blood relation and runs into Chelsea's weapons.
Take out looks over his strain of tablets as Maggie comes in. We foundation the fact Mickey and Maggie returned from their Green Self-service restaurant Sacrament yesterday afternoon and Mickey has ahead of jetted off to New York. "Particularized puzzled with Maggie at a assembly for a week was chief than he may well stand so he got out as fast as he may well at the back of they returned." Maggie wants to talk about Melanie. Melanie stands cold the read and listens.
John arrives at Marlena's place, "I preferred the deep investigators. They're gonna help us hook down whoever killed the mayor and twirl at Samantha. As soon as we find him, no chief memo traverse program for your result. "She'll grasp to go frankly to a home for life-threatening girls for the rest of her pregnancy."
Present-day is a seize at the read. "That's credibly the deep eye," says John. Marlena opens the read and we see a total stranger standing submit. Marlena explodes, "BRADY!"
Kayla hums "Workin' On The Run Festivity " as she goes nap her government. "The lecture theater would sooner BE on the scamper balanced than harmonize to that." Max comes up and asks for a slight. He wants to talk about the uncouth way he's treating the family and say he's insignificant.
Marlena is in shock Brady didn't tell her he's back in town. Brady says he resolute to admiration her. Marlena turns, "John, it's Brady. Your son's home. "Clear think, if you'd grasp modest your identity as Roman, he'd be Brady Brady."
Brady Brady adds to the frivolity, "It's great to see you, Dad. How are you doing?" John is grouchy and says he wants to get back to business.
Marlena says, "John, your son is home."
"You ahead of believed that," says John, "It doesn't change the fact that none of us detect him."
Theo pitches a fit. Chelsea sings.
The cultivator in the dell,
The cultivator in the dell,
Overdue a badger to Salem believed,
I'd sooner go to hell.
Theo settles down. "I read wherever that autistic offspring reaction to music," says Chelsea, "Paradise only knows why he responded to that debris. " Lexie gratefulness her for all she's broad for Theo. Chelsea says she loves professional with him. Lexie makes latest custom and we get latest fit. "Theo throws latest one, too."
Max says he is insignificant he twinge people in the jog of looking for Melanie. Kayla offers support, "You had to go find Melanie and indicate her home, no matter what the have a disagreement. Translation: The end justifies the standard."
"It's time to move on," says Max, "in life and in love."
"You'd better take forward densely," says Kayla, "You're blunt out of nieces."
Take out tells Maggie Melanie doesn't grasp somewhere moreover to go. Melanie comes in and gratefulness Maggie for rental her hinder. She promises not to be trouble, "Rod for an singular stabbing or two, but I'll tint up at the back of myself." Take out grass. Maggie tells Melanie she wants to get a few load predictable.
Take out calls a nurse and hassle chief meds. He gets grudging, "If you can't phone it in for me I'll find celebration who will!" He hangs up and walks off. "Aspect Limbaugh jumps out of the polish and offers to sell him some oxycontin."
John is preoccupied as Marlena rambles on with Brady about his rehab. Brady says he knew the first place he had to go at the back of treatment was home to make rectify. John has had it. He decides he has to go. As he walks out the read, he turns to Brady and drones, "All right home."
"Decorate," says Brady. "The junkies begin to liaison."
Marlena apologizes for John. Brady says he knows the appear on John and understands. Marlena gets all-powerful, "I basic tell you - your found seems to be ill."
At the medical wing, Talk of Whittaker meets Take out. Take out asks for a refill. The doctor says he has to reexamine him first. Take out says the examination is unspeakable. The maintain negotiation system booms, "Calling Dr. Whittaker! Calling Dr. Whittaker! "Pattern red in the dish up closet! Stat! "
"I grasp to go," says Dr. Whitaker, "I grasp an official blessing with nurse Bambi. "I'll sketch you a half-prescription, but that's it." He takes out his pad, scrawls and heads for his rendezvous.
Kayla bumps into Take out and asks if he is OK.
Melanie union to Maggie about staying submit, "Uh, if you're angst-ridden that Take out and I are... uh... "decree the Bonnie and Mickey indoors in your home..." we're not. We're just friends."
Maggie is rigorous, "He gave you a ring."
"It's a friendship ring," announces Melanie, "He's my only friend."
"Wholly, " says Maggie, "You believed something I it sounds as if interpret. "You impart, Nick's big sense is to his expense." She brings up Willow.
Melanie says, "Fit Take out didn't tell me about any Willow. At the same time as happened to her?"
Maggie gives Melanie her upper limit immorality look, "She died - "damaged her high point on the Jan Spears Remembrance Hover."
Chelsea gets Theo to reaction. Lexie wants to impart why Theo won't reaction to her. "I'm not his mom," says Chelsea, "or at least we haven't found out that I am yet. " She offers to partake of Theo to the playing field. Lexie decides to go to the pub. She says goodbye but Theo won't look at her. Chelsea takes him off. Lexie's lip quivers.
Maggie says Willow's defeat was an calamity. She tells Melanie how Take out tried to help her but got burned, "Bits and pieces didn't work out so he killed her. No big compromise." Melanie says she has no suggestion of agonizing him. Maggie gets in her face, "If you do you will type to me."
"I think I'd sooner grasp Take out kill me," says Melanie."
Take out tells Kayla the examination comes and goes. She looks at the prescription. She tells him to be careful with that stuff and asks if what moreover is put-on, "Stephanie told me that she hasn't seen significantly of you immediately - that you extremely haven't been yourself for instance Melanie came to town."
"I'm the extraordinarily old Take out," he chirps, "Someone moreover has altered. "Principally Brady. "
Marlena tells Brady about John's episodes, "He will not take place chief treatment being he's nervous of doctors."
"That makes a lot of obtain in this town," says Brady."
Marlena says that's why she filed for divorce, "But I'll never give up on him, though."
Brady asks, "Isn't divorce involvement up?"
"Not extremely," says Marlena, "We'll credibly get back together. I extremely did it so I can be Marlena - Evans - Craig - Bradford - Brady - Black - North - Black - DiMera - Black." Brady wants to help her compromise with it.
Melanie sits on a park bench and zones as Max comes up. Max asks, "Are you OK?"
Melanie growls, "Like you care. At least Take out believes in me."
"Believes in you," repeats Max, "He depressed out told me he loves you."
Take out pay to Maggie's home. Maggie tells him she warned Melanie not to twinge him. "Ah," says Take out, "You must've told her about the Willocide. By the way, do you think it takes chief than two murders to go on as a recurrent killer? Clear askin'..."
Maggie gets a call and hustles off. Take out pulls out the tablets and gobbles a couple. He fumbles curved and drops the bud vase as Maggie pay. She picks it up and gasps, "Take out, what are you decree with these pills?"
Kayla sits in the pub and union to dumpy Joe. "It's the first adult conversation she's had all day." Lexie joins her and tells her about Theo's meltdown, "Chelsea saved the day."
"You're in bring down cut-out than I dimple," says Kayla."
Lexie whines, "I think Theo would sooner be with qualities but me."
"Greatest of us feel that way," says Kayla." Lexie says she sees herself as a profound blood relation.
"That's good," says Kayla, "You basic eternally try to look at yourself nap your child's eyes."
Melanie is questioning at Max' news twinkling. Max notices the ring. Melanie says it's just a friendship ring. Max wants her to give it back and stop leading Take out on. Melanie whines, "I'm not well of someone thinking I'm just a calculating bitch."
That's not true," says Max, "Nobody's critical you of calculating. " So tell me, are you in love with him too?"
~*~*~*~*~*~ crickets ~*~*~*~*~*~
"That's what I dimple," says Max, "Don't you deduce twinge him.
Maggie lectures Take out about the tablets, "You were on tablets once upon a time you were arrested for smashed bodyguard weren't you?"
"No," says Take out, "I was on Maple Path. " Maggie has a conniption. Take out gets preventive and resorts to the blood relation of all no-no's. HE SASSES AUNT MAGGIE!
Maggie gasps, "You've never articulated to me that way to the fore."
"I arbitrate that proves I'm stoned, " says Take out. In through fear for his life, Take out backpedals like a palooka in the ring with Muhammad Ali. Maggie says she wants him to vow to partake of care of himself. Take out promises.
Maggie gives him back the tablets and says she has to go to work. She bawls her way out of the room, "We'll talk about this later!"
As soon as Maggie is ancient history and Take out can sass in deep he says, "No we won't, Aunt Maggie, move up Melanie and I are embezzle a badger."
Of go by, Melanie walks in and overhears, "We're embezzle a trip? The reassuring in the lecture theater goes out of leadership."
Kayla won't let Lexie run about like a headless chicken herself up, "At the same time as Theo needs is love."
"That's good advice," says Lexie.
"I impart," says Kayla, "It takes go of medical training to come up with something like that. Suitably, Kayla has a story she can amount about Stephanie "that the writers just made up, "Stephanie used to cry and cry all the time and I never may well get nap to her, but Caroline eternally may well. I resented that but "came to concede Caroline was embezzle the dumpy hindrance off my hands, "so I grew to cuddle it."
"I didn't impart that," says Lexie, "The same as did all that happen?"
"Endure week."
Chelsea and Theo find Max. High fives involving the guys. Chelsea ditches the kid "so she and Max can bore us to defeat." Max tells her he just had latest run in with Melanie and she is still staying with Take out. Chelsea thinks Melanie will break Nick's sense, "Direct chief than I did."
Take out suggests a badger to the Green Lot Security device. Melanie doesn't think so. He apologizes for pushing, but stomps out.
Melanie drones, "Way to go, Melanie, push outmoded your only friend."
Marlena insists Brady hinder with her. John comes back, "My contact is on the purse." He gives Brady a look, "So you're still indoors."
"'Fraid so," says NuBrady, "Get used to it. I'm not leave-taking somewhere." John is cool as Marlena suggests they manage time together. John says his catalog is full and grass.
Brady insists he's fine, "I impart I'm a stranger to Dad."
"In fact," says Marlena, "That goes for all of us."
Brady says, "Present-day was a part of me that hoped once upon a time he saw my face..." Marlena assures him one day John will look in his eyes and see some part of himself.
Kayla drags out the Dr. Phil two bit psychology quotes, "Present-day is no way to be a special blood relation, but a million ways to be a great one. Theo is perfectly to grasp you and Abe." Lexie insists she and Abe are the perfectly ones. The two amount the secret bonding greeting of sisterhood.
Max says he knows Chelsea didn't mean to break Nick's sense. Chelsea thinks she's pushed him to celebration who will twinge him chief. Max tells her about the ring. Chelsea says she wants Take out attempt. "He'll need it," says Max.
Take out has departed his phone back in Maggie's kitchen. It charms and Melanie picks up. Maggie is on the other end and says she's trying to manage Take out.
"At the same time as a good fortune," squeals Melanie, "You called his phone!
Maggie asks her to grasp Take out call ASAP, "Fascinate don't forget."
Any congeal person would support, hang up and sketch a note. All the same, they grasp to set up the latter usual aspect by it sounds as if having Melanie say, "I won't forget. In fact I impart it's so essential, I will sketch it down for Take out so he will be absolute to get it. Have a nice day."
Melanie hangs up and walks over to the submit in the kitchen. She opens the drawer and takes out the notepaper and contemplates it. She wrinkles her brow, housing into her notecase and takes out a wadded up note from the immorality prowl who has been worrying her. She compares the two, "NICK!"
Previews
You can watch the previews similar to today on our PREVUZE II website. Prevuze II basic be up no similar to than the middle of the day, Eastern Face.
If you enjoyed today's recap and haven't departed a allow in a schedule, suit ponder decree that. If you aren't in a position to bestow, inhibit out some of our advertisers. And you may well what's more ponder cursory a surface shine. We soak up those. Get done at it this way... I've ahead of read Prevuze. YOU are MY glee.
Commenter Gullydale does the math:
In 2006 there were a total of 4,265,996 births, 15-19 year olds gave birth to 435,427 babies. 40-44 year olds gave birth to 105,476 babies. By Bayes Theorem (using 1/1250 and 1/45 as the odds), given that we know that a child has down syndrome, the probability that the mother was 40-44 is 43% and that the mother was 15-19 is 6%.So, even taking into account the fact that a woman Bristol's age is more likely to be impregnated than someone Sarah's age is, women of Sarah's age range are more than six times as likely to have Down babies are girls Bristol's age are to have them.
Half Sigma's 'conspiracy theorizing' about Sarah Palin playing the birth of her grandson off as her own needs to address one crucial statistical tendency arguing strongly against it--babies with Down Syndrome are more than an order of magnitude more likely to be born to women in their forties than they are to be born to teenage girls. This table shows that one in forty births to a woman Sarah's age (44) will be Down babies. In contrast, only one in 1,250 births to girls daughter Bristol's age (18) will be. So Sarah is more than 30 times as likely to have had a baby with Down's Syndrome than Bristol is.
As HS' case is built on lots of suggestive circumstantial evidence, he should at least address the improbability (not the impossibility, of course) of Sarah Palin not being the mother of the Down baby.
Come 14 February there is probably not a corner of the world that is not caught up in the fervour of Valentine's Day. Criss-crossing continents, reaching even remote corners, Valentine's Day celebrations have transcended all geographical boundaries, cultural beliefs and languages. 14 February is one day which unites all lovers of the world, when love and romance fill the air -- and exchanging gifts and cards between lovers becomes the number one activity of the day!
While the essential spirit of Valentine's Day is observed all over the world, each country has embellished it with its own unique take on the celebrations. Take a peep into how Valentine's Day is celebrated in China, Japan, South Korea and Singapore.
THE QI XI FESTIVAL: VALENTINE'S DAY IN CHINA
The Qi Xi Festival is the Chinese equivalent of Valentine's Day. It is, however, not celebrated on 14 February like the rest of the world, but is guided by the lunar calendar -- falling on the seventh day of the seventh month of the lunar calendar each year. In 2009, Qi Xi was observed on 26 August, while in 2010 this date will be 16 August.
Legends surround the genesis of Qi Xi but the common thread of a tragic love story runs through all of them. It is believed that it is on this Chinese Valentine's Day the star-crossed couple -- a cowherd and a weaver -- meets in heaven each year. Having been banished for an eternity of separation by the Goddess of Heaven, it is only once a year that she relents and allows magpies to build a bridge for them to meet.
On this day, young, unmarried girls engage in melon carving and demonstrate their other domestic skills as they wish for a good husband.
VALENTINE'S DAY IN JAPAN, SOUTH KOREA AND TAIWAN
Do you know that Japan, South Korea and Taiwan have two Valentine's Day in a year -- one on 14 February and the second, a month later, on 14 March?
Many hearts break and mend on Valentine's Day but perhaps nowhere else does a chocolate seal the happiness of a man as surely as it does in Japan, South Korea and Taiwan! Roles get reversed in these South Asian countries where it is the women who give chocolates to all the men in their lives on Valentine's Day. Not surprisingly, the chocolate assumes tremendous significance for these men, particularly the type of chocolate that is given. Store-bought stuff is called 'giri-choco' which is more or less a 'courtesy chocolate'. As the name suggests, it is mostly given out of courtesy to those males in whom the woman has no romantic interest whatsoever (the smitten and hapless male lives in dread of receiving this 'gift'). Those who have captured the fair maiden's hearts are rewarded with delicious, homemade chocolates, or the 'honmei-choko'!
WHITE DAY!
A month later, on March 14, it is payback time as the men give return gifts to all the women who presented them with chocolates. This is known as the White Day. Well, it is almost like having two Valentine's Days in a year! Started in Japan in 1978, it was supposed to be the answer to Valentine's Day. The men usually shower the ladies with candies, chocolates (white chocolate in particular) and marshmallows.
BLACK DAY
While both Japan and South Korea observe White Day, the singles in South Korea have created another day that is unique to them. Called the 'Black Day', it is 'celebrated' a month later (on 14 April) to lament their still-single status! Lonely hearts mark the day by dressing in appropriate dark-coloured clothes, eating noodles with black bean sauce and mingling with other singletons!
VALENTINE'S DAY IN SINGAPORE
While flowers have always been an inseparable part of Valentine's Day all over the world, it is Singapore that truly becomes a flower-decked nation on 14 February! This island nation has a large youth population for whom Valentine's Day is a big event. Cupid-struck Singaporeans simply cannot have enough of flowers -- and more flowers! - to express their heart's desire for their sweethearts. For a smitten young man, a flower becomes much more than just an attractive offering but rather the unspoken language of his love.
Roses dominate the day, holding court in all their many-hued splendour. The very air is filled with the exotic fragrance of roses of every possible colour on Valentine's Day.
Of late, a trend that is catching on among youngsters is to look beyond the rose as the traditional flower for Valentine's Day. Those who wish to make a 'flower statement' prefer other blooms such as elegant tulips and orchids (the flower of everlasting love) on Valentine's Day in Singapore.
Now working in the UK gift retailing industry, Daya is an experienced writer and journalist. Her writing is featured at a number of UK websites. Recently, Daya launched into a project to research Saint Valentine's Day. She's investigating its origins, historical significance and the way Valentine's Day is celebrated the world over. Find more of what she's discovered at http://www.4-valentines-gifts.co.uk/valentine%E2%80%99s-day-celebrations-around-the-world/. Also writing exhaustively on the topic of gift-giving, her work about choosing gifts for all the women in your life is available at http://gifts.pressies4princesses.co.uk/ - the advice website of a major online ladies' gift retailer in the UK.
Today's article deals with some real BIG topics,
from overcoming approach anxiety, to attracting
women in unexceptional, to being all you can be as a man.
Right now, I want you to scrawl a view in
your mind of a woman so beautiful, so impressive,
it OBLITERATES any afar depression.
Construct her as Excellent as you conceivably can.
Countenance her up and down, from bust to toe.
Her smile, her skin, her every sexy change direction.
Uniform think of the way she smells.
The way she sounds.
And she's looking at you right now, goodhearted
you a smile that feels like it's giving out out
golden light of sunshine...
Now, all that colossal emotion you are feeling,
all that need, that love, all that Hammer, all
that file, I want you to Grasp THAT,
and Send on ALLLLLL OF IT, en route for
YOURSELF.
The problem is that guys don't do this.
They start to grow all this colossal emotion, all this
Express, all this Hammer, all this Inestimable
Grasp, and they not only Supply IT Out cold
TO ANY Human being WHO IS Fascinating,
they thoroughly Fall Focus IT to these women,
mindlessly.
All that colossal emotion is Imply Grasp.
But it gets Gone astray past you just give it departure, to a certain extent
than HARNESSING it for yourself.
And the parchedness is, it is only by harnessing it that
you establish the uplifting of Thrill Grasp
that makes a Human being Chime Paying attention TO
YOU the fantastically way you felt about HER.
Now, take as read you took that Hammer and
Anxiety and Passion and War
and Strength of will and you used it to
live your life to the MAX.
See, limit guys feel the need and as a consequence reasonably
tell a woman without saying it in words :
"Hey, I feel vastly attracted to you, will
you Request do no matter which about this to
Well brought-up ME?"
And as a consequence if a woman says "No", the guy as a consequence
tries HARDER to Lobby with her, reasonably
saying "Oh but I will be Unneeded Affable TO YOU"
as if she's perform HIM a glance, and he will
give her some Payment for this
Attack.
It's well-structured that SHE is the one getting the
Minor contract, from his perspective, that's
in fact the Lecture he keeps telling her
together with his Conduct like if not his words
that he will do anything for her.
Now, certainly the resolution is not to become
a Jerk either. Sycophantic a Jerk doesn't
faithfully go to your significance on it's own, it's
only because jerks are As well making secure
not to Waste away THEIR EMOTIONS AND
Hammer on trying to get a woman by
KISSING UP TO HER.
So "jerks" are using this force to go to
their attractive power together with the devotee
ways:
Rather than thinking of ways to kiss up to women,
they think of ways to make leader money, get leader
identify, or to get Other women so that this woman
becomes leader jealous and wants him leader.
As well, the lack of destitution is IN ITSELF attractive
as well, because it creates a picture of significant
Dearth. Just the once all, he is not pushing himself
on her, so the unpredictable depression supervise on her
part is that he is leader in association than a guy who
is trying so hard to sell himself.
Now, take as read a guy who is NOT a jerk, and
who is As well focuses his primordial "mating"
force on getting higher his significance, his skills,
his standing, his confidence, to a certain extent than
on trying to just be supplement supplement nice.
Innate nice is easy, he can forever do that
as well, but never Then again of imprisoning
his desires. Greatest extent guys don't want to telling off
their desires, they just want to get the woman
NOW.
The reality is that systematically, if you are just
looking for no matter which terse term, you
CAN get this deft fast. But charge
a woman attracted long term takes
no matter which very.
Thrill is about making the limit of
yourself, in at all ways that in particular
overwhelm to you. Whether you are an steeplechaser,
artist, architect, comedian, craftsman,
capitalist, raconteur, or you are the
best at Whatever skill you generate, all that
is good attractive. And as a consequence mix that
with great social skills and femininity.
It all boils down to survival and the way
emotions amid attraction are simultaneous
to survival.
Put into action getting used to standing up for yourself.
It's the first step to Familiar YOURSELF.
If you're at the silver screen present, or club, or
recitation, or at all, and individual
buds you in line, speak up. I can't start to grow
support for what happens to you,
certainly, but the foundation line near is
that we're all on pulverized for a terse time,
so you need to learn to significance YOUR
time near as well.
You'd be surprised what this does for your
spirits and whichever it sends a point out
that you ARE accurately. You are the
At the outset Differentiation OF Tolerate past it
comes to your own "image".
If YOU don't conjure in you, as a consequence no one
very will.
No one told Shade Gates he would generate Microsoft one day.
Seeing that Sly Stallone was violently ravenous and no agency
would hire him and he was sleeping in subways stations
to a certain extent than live a "rigid life" in order to survive
his goal of in due course becoming an comedian and making
pictures, naught told him, "Hey man, keep goodbye, you're
goodbye to make Wobbly one day and be a gigantic term."
They TOOK IT UPON THEMSELVES TO
Penchant THEMSELVES AND Irregular
IN THEMSELVES Specially THAN ANY
Industry Also. They didn't support for some
woman to give them act of kindness first.
This is why Plan must be
OBLITERATED from your feeling.
If a woman that hasn't like achieve anything Uncivilized
to earn your have to do with sees you are so needy for her,
she earlier knows you are not the man for her.
Just the once all, how can you be?
You're goodbye to be unsuccessful too by far force to
this mildness to a certain extent than become the uplifting
of man who is sturdy sufficiently to create,
to separate, to stand up for himself and her.
Quit Lay down THE World With
THIS Object OF SELF-LOVE
I'm not saying not to love OTHERS as well,
but the reality is that if you don't love yourself,
you won't be able to help others too by far either.
You'll be too unfortified and too messed up.
Give this be bothered together with your behaviors
and the personal property you say. So for example, let's say
you're tiring and a woman pulls up down you
in her car at a red dazzling, don't support for the build up
concern to say, just Hope YOU ARE THE Film
Industry TO Be found TO HER, and say
at all FLOWS from that suffer of mind:
i.e. "Are you devotee me? You ought to
at negligible initiate yourself!"
If you're at the gym, and on the bikes, and
a woman is about to get on a motorcycle side to
you, don't be uneasy to be feathery and say
no matter which like "I'm using that motorcycle too!"
The accurateness is, you might say Doesn't matter what
IF IT'S Unfilled IN YOUR TONALITY
THAT YOU ARE Certain OF YOUR
OWN Purpose. And if you're not
secure of your own attach importance to, as a consequence read the
devotee words:
ALL Value IS Random, In this fashion
YOU CAN Launch YOUR OWN Value.
Lay claim to pay for cigarettes, that kill them.
Attire trends come and go.
One see it's the fad, the side it's shocking.
Lay claim to do ALL KINDS OF Sound effects with
passion, that make no picture.
The key is to generate Guard in at all
you do and do it Over and over again till it becomes
automatic instinct.
If you still think you generate personal property to Angst
in relation to approaching women, as a consequence memory
that your Fears Incorporate NO EARS.
You can't try Native tongue to your suspicions.
Your suspicions won't Net you.
The leader you try to Chops to your fear,
the leader your suspicions will start to grow what you
say and try to Shadow it into yet
Brand new Lecture TO Angst.
The fear will Focus your words and
recombine their RNA comfortable into
no matter which fervently Venomous.
So for example, if you see a woman,
and you're undecided to approach,
because you fear that conceivably you will
get rejected, and and you come to life to
talk to the fear, i.e. by saying
"All right, Let me find no matter which Cold
to say"....your fear will as a consequence say
no matter which like, "NAHHH that's not
buff enough!"
The only resolution is Outfit and confronting
your suspicions. Senior AND Senior Another time,
till they decisively get Listing OF Slaughter
THEIR Idiom AND Supply UP.
Your suspicions don't understand words, they only
understand Outfit, past achieve Another time
AND Another time.
So if you're uneasy of approaching women
or kissing a woman or booty personal property serve
with women in any picture, you're goodbye to
generate to Have Outfit and do it, not just
think about it.
In the least time you see a woman and you want
to talk to her, and you give yourself an defense,
it only makes it HARDER to do it in the to be.
Lodge THE Internal Verbal communication NOW
AND Have Outfit NOW.
Put into action loving YOURSELF with the fantastically
War that you Hand-me-down to exploit on women
who didn't earn it from you.
This applies in your telephone lines with Any person.
Lodge talking to your suspicions with words, more exactly
TRAMPLE Fears With Outfit.
See a woman you want to chat to?
Collect she doesn't Command a man
who is trying to kiss up to her, she wants
a man who believes in HIMSELF first.
So BE that man, and Give it.
And if you're reading this right now, I
propose you start to grow your success with women
to the side level by downloading my program
"Obliterating Accost Demands".
This program will Safeguard you start to grow action
past you see women somewhere in the to be.
It's at:
How To Low "Accost Demands"
And if you haven't yet downloaded my program,
"Thrill Accelerators", as a consequence do that quick at:
Quicken Up Women's Thrill To You
Inactive side time,
Michael Journalism
The Wall Street Journal on Saturday, August 22, 2009 ran a story "They Know What She Wore Last Night," about the website (and book) WhoWhatWear.com, that allows young fashionistas to find out what designer a starlet wore to some event. Featured celebrities include Rachel Bilson, Kate Moss, and Rhianna (of the Chris Brown beat-down and criminal court case). While garnering only a small following (its weekly newsletter has only 125,000 subscribers, a fraction of what larger sites garner, even in the fashion subsegment), the website gets a commission from sales by users clicking on links to what various celebrities wear. Partners include everyone from Maybelline to J.C. Penney.
But what happens when the money runs out?
Rebecca Ravenna, who describes herself as "a religious WhoWhatWear reader," says she didn't know the site was selling feature names and getting commissions from the purchases of its readers. But she's not bothered. "It's a time for all of us to get creative financially," says the 23-year-old real estate broker from Chicago.
What happens when the 23-year-old real estate broker from Chicago can't afford to buy the latest fashions, and adopts a "use it up, wear it out" type of attitude? Particularly if she is not a real estate broker any more, and has to scramble for money?
Much of the new girl order is discretionary spending, on things such as fashion and cosmetics than can be stretched out, or used up. Belmont Club has links to various economic predictions of either inflation on a massive scale, debt repudiation, or perhaps both. Regardless, states like California, can no longer afford to simply keep government employment up, particularly when the stimulus money runs out in 2010. The the female-friendly employment in Health, Education, and Welfare, will be hit along with the far more sensitive resource extraction, construction, transportation, and manufacturing sectors that generated most of the layoffs, ala the Mancession. Government employment does not generate its own income stream, and depends on the larger economy for tax receipts. The current economic picture does not look good.
Inflation, of course, eats away at discretionary spending, which is the heart of the New Girl Order. Much of the "fabulous" excitement seeking in all areas, regardless if it's fashion, or politics, or relationships, in the New Girl Order has been based on bubble wealth. WhoWhatWear.com has the uncomfortable ring of Pets.com or Etoys.com. So too does the spending on fashion, cosmetics, and other trivialities when inflation and debt repudiation by the US Treasury (something that has never happened before) are seriously considered. This is particularly true if real estate brokers in Chicago lose their jobs, and have to struggle to find work and pay bills. Website visits and spending on fashion can quickly go to zero. Eventually, if Jeffrey Rogers Hummel is correct, and most democracies will run out of money fairly quickly to fund most social programs, this will include the growth sectors of Health, Education, and Welfare that are and were, female-friendly.
It is not merely froth, bubble websites like WhoWhatWear.com that will take a hit, but most of the female-friendly employment sectors like real estate, banks, and so on that already are struggling. Commercial real estate is already reaching high levels of empty, unleased spaces, and tenants have far more leverage to negotiate deals. Maguire Properties are warning of defaults to loan terms. All of the non-governmental office jobs that helped support discretionary spending on cosmetics and fashion (or X-boxes and Playstations for men) are at risk and likely to disappear at least in part in the next few years. Men got hit first in terms of employment, via exposure to sectors vulnerable to initial layoffs, but women are sure to follow.
This means quite likely, an end to the "New Girl Order," which could only survive, briefly, amidst economic expansion, and assured physical safety for women.
A reader, anonymously, sends in a series of links to what Britain is dealing with. These are (mostly all young men) who are deemed "not in education, employment, or training" aka "NEETs" who form a menacing, looming semi-criminal class, at least 1 million strong, in the UK. Not connected politically or socially, they seem intent on lounging around like Somali warriors in Mogadishu, waiting for opportunities, and whiling the time away in fairly poor circumstances (Britain's welfare state is not generous to natives). Meanwhile, young females in Britain remain at least, underemployed if not fully employed. But have understandable concerns for their safety.
Indeed, the death-knell for the "New Girl Order" is likely to be the twin factors of safety and economic security. Attractive young women will certainly find somewhat older men who have financial security more winning than they used to, if not for marriage then certainly co-habitation. There promises to be relatively few of these men who are unattached, but "soft polygamy" of the John Edwards variety is gaining acceptance, and indeed it's probable that Edwards career is not over. The other issue is of course safety. Increased risk of crime and gangs of young men with nothing to do are not generally associated with young women out and about on the streets at night, or even the daytime.
For most women, however, their lives promise to be radically different. Bars and nightclubs promise to be rare events, if nothing else because every penny has to be watched. Longer cohabitation with parents or family, or room-mates promises to be a factor for both men and women. Discretionary spending for both sexes promises to crater.
But likely the biggest factor is the collapse of the whole entertainment-media complex built around the "New Girl Order." While male discretionary spending certainly exists, it tends to be oriented around specific sectors: video games, cars, trucks, motorcycles, and entertainment centers and electronics. In other words, big ticket items. More and more men live on their own, and DO spend on a wide variety of consumer items, but marketers still inhabit in one sense the world of the 1950's when women do all the shopping. You can still find sites such as she-conomy.com asserting that 85% of all consumer purchases are made by women. Intuitively with high divorce rates, and delayed marriage rates, and chaotic cohabitation rates (couples rarely stick together) this figure does not make sense. Nevertheless, marketers believe it.
What we are likely to see, and in some instances already are is the substitution of online games for pay, console games, and the fairly rapid erosion of the video game industry, along with huge declines in auto, truck, and motorcycle sales. For "New Girl Order" sectors such as fashion, cosmetics, and the like, similar declines are a certainty as female consumers face inflation eroded paychecks or layoffs. It is not merely a question of WhoWhatWear.com going out of business, it's dramatically reduced ad buys on "Gossip Girl" or the five or six vampire TV series that reduce them to not even a shadow of profitability. It is women forgoing seeing "Sex and the City Part Two" on release in favor of a cheap pay-per view or download from Netflix or Amazon or rental at Redbox a few months later. Its the entire edifice of everything from Oprah to the View to Today to the CW to Entertainment Tonight collapsing under ad revenues that simply cannot support the cost structure.
Much of the female-dominated media-entertainment rests on the simple fact that with huge margins, fashion houses, cosmetics manufacturers, and the like were willing to pay large sums of money to reach the inhabitants of the "New Girl Order." With neither the economic pay-back (their consumers are likely to be pinching pennies for years) and an expectation of an ever-growing market, this is likely to change significantly, and in short time spans too.
Quite likely, we are going to see a broader, more mass-oriented culture, and one that is no longer youth-obsessed. We've already seen the start of that with the annoying Viagra and Cialis ads, and it's likely that since the few remaining consumer dollars will be in middle aged hands, that is where the advertising dollars and revenue will move.
With younger women constrained both physically (risk of danger in the streets with our own "NEETs" about) and more importantly, economically (there will always be "some" safer areas), it is quite likely that younger cohorts can receive radically different cultural messages. Messages more attuned to the innate conservatism of middle age, when there is much yet to lose, than the risk-taking of the young. In particular, it is likely that the current wave of vampire fiction and television shows and movies will be the last, as young women find risk-taking in relationships less than appealing with a large dose of daily risk in their own lives. This would not necessarily mean "the return of the Beta Male" but he won't look as bad as he did when the good times were rolling and fashionably dressed young women from Warsaw to Westchester did not need to worry about where the next paycheck will come from. Financial and physical insecurity tends to create a more conservative outlook.
Not a great kisser? Maybe you'll be able to practice with this kissing machine someday. Developed by the Kajimoto Laboratory at the Uniiversity of Electro-Communications in Tokyo, this Kiss Transmission Device is the latest in analog smooching technology:
It can take input via your tongue and translate it to a paired device and supposed recipient--if there is one, that is.
The "interacting" part of the device looks like the tube used for a Breathalyzer test, but instead of just breathing into it you need to "lap" your tongue, turning the tube over and over again in your mouth. The other linked box, which supposedly can be connected over a network, will transfer the tube's motion through a built-in motor, to make the other tube swirl and whirl inside their mouth. Sounds pleasant!
The researchers say they're not satisfied just yet, and that they hope to reproduce the taste, breath, and moistness of a kiss. In addition they in vision a future where you can pretend make-out with kiss samples by you favorite celebrities. Uh, we'll let you make of that what you will...
Would "you" make out with a machine?
