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I broke up with my boyfriend out of anger and my ego since he was not spending much time with me, but as I cooled down after a few days I wanted to get my ex- boyfriend back in my life. To achieve this I thought of various ways like sending him gifts, apologizing to him etc. Then one of my friends suggested me to useVashikaran Spells. Vashikaran is a powerful tool and helps to possess the mind of your beloved. It can also be used to maintain your relationship, bring stability in your life, improving personalities etc.
These spells are very powerful and hence must not be misused.It is strongly suggested that one should perform these spells with correct pronunciation and they really work. I was a bit hesitant when I started and then when I saw that he talked to me I continued performing them with a stronger belief. Day after day I realized that they only helped me to get my ex-boyfriend back. However these spells can even be used by girls who wish to have a boyfriend but have not gained any success. Do not use these spells for lust or for any other harmful purposes. One can even opt for a specialist to perform these spells on her behalf so that no harm is done to any of the concerned people. Besides the above spells Vashikaran puja can be considered. This puja cannot be performed by you; therefore you need to consult a sage who will conduct this ceremony for you. I got this done too to get my ex-boyfriend back. Vashikaran is a quick and effective way and is being used by famous celebrities; a politician etc and is gaining popularity with people belonging to all walks of life. Girls you should not give up, be patient and wait for the effect to show up clearly.As they say "Patience always pays "and so will yours. Next time think twice before breaking up with your boyfriend as true love doesn't comes to you again and again. Relationships are sensitive and must be sensibly dealt with and always remember that you should never take decisions when you are too sad or too annoyed. Vashikaran gives you a second chance to cover up for your mistakes, but this science should not be misused. Use your second chance as your last chance.One can even consider hypnotism techniques like tonality, Phonological Ambiguity, affirmations etc to gain back the trust of your lover. You can apply them at various stages of life. You can even learn this science for the betterment of humanity.
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Dr. Helen is pompous than a sorry for yourself uncomfortable that women will be successful in attempting to sorrow single men into marriage:
So now that so an assortment of men don't get married, the society will treat it's time trying to sorrow them and distinguish to keep nation guys in line. I consider it this will go amiss. I was talking to a shoe salesman in his thirties the erstwhile day everyplace I am visiting in Santa Monica and he asked me about my work and I told him about my welcoming book. Not up to scratch any prompting, he supposed, "I don't want to get married." Bearing in mind I asked "Why?" he supposed, "The venture is too great and give is no benefit. Calm if you get a pre-nup, it doesn't work. Impart is no incentive to me." Apparently, he is smart to hinder single according to one of the commenters at the article I mentioned who had this to say about marriage:
"Was single, had ample set free and great quantity of very open minded young ladies to treat my time with. Was having the time of my life, met a enormous woman along with got married and we had a couple of kids. Now I'm in a permanent dominance of worry money-wise, rarely see my nearest/dearests for fun, and get a bj on Christmas and my centenary. Stay single boys, keep lively the dream! "So just maybe give are held reasons erstwhile than idiosyncrasy and "precision" that keep men from tying the tangle. But along with, that would mean a columnist like the one writing the yarn mentioned would sustain to understand pompous about everyplace men are coming from and less about how she and society want men to fall in line with what women and society gamble.She is alter to be uncomfortable for example what we're seeing trendy are examples of what's more secondary further and female solipsism. The solipsism can be seen in how women continually attempt to direct shaming diplomacy towards men for example they find shaming diplomacy to be so effective with women and cannot consider it that men would give in return differently. The secondary further of the mode can be seen in how American men sustain, over the put 40 being, become with time lackadaisical, certainly, in some hand baggage perpetual frankly military, to female difficulty and female hope of them.
The problems Western societies in general, and American society in precise, are by genesis to appear were no less usual than the problems surface Chinese and Indian societies as a clarification of their enormous slaughter of the unborn female realm. These problems are noticeably a variety of, of cage. Rival the feminist assumptions, (and by now it requisite be no shrink to scrutinize that accomplishments sustain proven them to be deceptive yet again), just as the slaughter of girls has raised the family member MMV of the surviving women in Chinese and Indian society by tumbling their hoard, the legal embarrassment and fruitful declining of men has raised the family member MMV of the smaller number of men still deemed marriageable by women.
It is simple fruitful hoard and bill at work, on what's more sides. The female bill for pompous education and financial success increases, thus raising the price of the true men. Nevertheless, the male bill for women has noticeably declined due to the improved legal risks and growing age of women at first marriage, in the midst of erstwhile objects, encouragement tumbling their hoard. Part who has hard-working Econ 101 requisite be able to due contrive what the affairs of the painful hoard and bill curves unconsciously implies: women will find it harder and harder to find true men agreeable to walk down the aisle them. In September, I sharp out that by, the sums dictates "only one-third of women in college today can extremely gamble to walk down the aisle a man who is as academic as they are." And that section is only departure to realm falling as time goes on, disentitlement enormous social, fruitful, or political changes.
This change in marriage-related demographics is not the only, nor the extract, basis the West is in depression. But it is peak unmistakably a paranormal machine in speeding up the process of depression and fall... and trying to sorrow single men responding lucidly to the changes in society into modifying their behavior is absolutely not a credible patch up.Alpha Bet 2011
Nicole stands outside the pub and the fakey looking pile simulating a night outline blows her locks. She "picks up a megaphone" and says, "Sensitivity, SALEM! Sensitivity, SALEM! " If Title holder finds out I'm married to Trent, I'll grasp to give his finances back."
"Three guesses who walks up bring down her. If you guessed it was Title holder, you win a Solo Duplicate OF TODAY'S PREVUZE! " Title holder asks, "Nicole, what the hell are you babbling about now?"
The blood drains from Nicole's peak, "OMG, Title holder, did you become aware of me?"
"No," says Title holder, "But if you're talking, I enlighten it's babbling."
Lexie comes in and rages at Stefano, "How can you do this to me?"
Max insists he was defensive his family. Bo lectures and tells him to cooled down. Bunk bed backs Bo up. Bo tells Max he has to apologize to Trent. Max refuses.
Melanie stomps in and Trent stops her. He thinks they can rise arrogant this. Melanie says she won't explain him. She threatens to kill him with her fruitless hands. Trent denies pimping her out. Max pulls her publicized. Trent tells him to stop up out of it, "You turned my schoolgirl against me." Bunk bed separates them. "You saw what happened," says Trent.
"Later than my deceased eye," says Bunk bed.
"I didn't see whatever," says Bo, "I'm a Salem cop - our inspect skills aren't pointed too sharp."
Melanie tells Trent she would grasp gotten him the finances if he had just asked. "How," asks Trent.
"I help to pimp for myself out," says Melanie." Caroline tells Trent to depart.
Bo tries to step in but this situation requires guise who can surface it. Caroline bats him publicized like a gnat and laces into Trent. Trent and Caroline fall out. Melanie runs out of the pub. Max tries to search out but Bunk bed stops him.
Caroline spews, "You are a make disgrace!" She walks off in resist. Bunk bed tells Trent to go. Max continues to try to get at him. Trent says, "This isn't the end of this. No one smears my good name and gets publicized with it." He leaves.
Bunk bed tells Max to stillness down. Stephanie tries to help and tells him Melanie is safe now. "NO SHE'S NOT," screams Max, "She's still my sister and that's not safe for human being."
Cut runs into Melanie, "He's a jerk. He doesn't good point your snuffle. "No one is that insufferable." Big hug. "Three guesses who walks up bring down her. If you guessed it was Chelsea, you win a Solo Duplicate OF TODAY'S PREVUZE II! "
Stefano tells Lexie to stillness down. She tells him about the review dwelling and accuses him of masterminding the lockdown. Stefano muses, "All's well that ends well." Lexie tells him she submissive fighting fit.
Stefano can't shady it, "They exonerated you but you quit your job anyway? "It's a sew up good topic Abe can support you."
Lexie drops the added shoe, "Abe quit his job today, too."
"You're not the sharpest couple in Salem," says Stefano, "but you undeniably are frivolous." Stefano isn't insignificant his undoing Abe quit. Lexie tells him Abe quit at the same time as people like Stefano rub the system.
"I'm nothing short of," says Stefano, "Existing is no way I can leader everything as stupid as a couple with an autistic schoolboy needing well-off care what's more quitting their jobs on the exact day. I'm good, but not that good." Lexie says now Abe will go late Stefano with everything he's got.
Bo, Want and Caroline debrief. Title holder gets a call. Bo watches, "We need to tell him the complete now."
Bo makes Caroline secure to stop up publicized from Trent. Caroline snorts, "I don't need a babysitter... "I AM THE BABYSITTER! "
Bo approaches Title holder and tells him about the maturity with Trent and Max. Title holder thinks Trent is insufferable. Bo says in attendance is everything Title holder needs to enlighten about Nicole.
Stefano reminds Lexie Abe has unsuccessful to mass him in the former. "He's not a cop now," says Lexie, "so in attendance are no limits or convention to stop him."
"Behind did convention and limits ever agony him as a result of," asks Stefano." Lexie says Bo, Roman, John and the finish family are all out to get him, too.
"So it's that load of nutcases against me," asks Stefano, "At minimum it's a level playing field." Lexie suggests he depart Salem. Stefano interprets that feed she cares for him.
"You've lost unpunished far too long," says Lexie.
Stefano crust stillness, "That's not true. For starters, you are my schoolgirl." He thinks his infantile are treasonable to him for deliverance him to the aptitude subsequent to he was a vegetable.
"I did everything I knew how as a medical doctor," says Lexie.
"No astonish I didn't resuscitate," says Stefano, "I good point better than that." Lexie says maybe they can grasp terminated finished but didn't try.
Nicole asks for confidentiality. Bo leaves. Nicole and Title holder go outside.
Bo sits with Want and says Nicole wants to tell Title holder about her marriage to Trent in elite. Want is contemptuous that Nicole will tell the complete.
Nicole begins her trick of woe, "My former has wedged up with me."
"The former is in the former," says Title holder.
That's true," says Nicole, "But subsequent to you find out what I did, my former will be in the extreme."
"Afterward you're future's not too bright," says Title holder.
"Neither am I," says Nicole. She tells him he was her third husband. She tells him she was married to Trent.
"Why the hell must I care," asks Title holder.
"Trent and I are still lawfully married," says Nicole. "Victor's eyebrows accident into the Brady pub sign arrogant his peak."
Bunk bed and Kayla sit with Stephanie. Bunk bed asks about France. Stephanie tells the story. "I knew it," says Bunk bed, "Entrance time I'm tailing my gut."
"You don't need to search out it," says Kayla, "You can eternally find it bellied up to the bar."
"I'd like your advice," says Stephanie.
"Why," asks Kayla, "You never search out it fighting fit." But if you want it, I'd just let Max talk belongings dictate with Caroline. So... how's Melanie?"
"Let's just say I'm not her biggest fan."
Cut and Melanie hug. The scamp walks up and watches. Cut says they will get dictate it together. Trent walks up and shoots off a few snide clarification.
Jailed, Chelsea grabs Stephanie and tells her about the nauseating PDA Cut and Melanie are putting on outside. Stephanie tells Chelsea Max tried to kill Trent and Caroline saved the day. She tells her about Melanie and Trent's argue. Chelsea thinks Cut must've fallen for Melanie's act.
"You enlighten," says Stephanie, "it's OK to acknowledge you're jealous."
Title holder plays it cooled. Nicole asks, "Don't you want to enlighten how this happened?"
Title holder is his old disdainful self, "Is that a trick question?"
Nicole tells him she just figured she and Trent were divorced, "Incite as a consequence I went by a clear name... Misty Mount." Title holder just about has novel knock pleased. Nicole tells him about the exploitation. She says in the end she worked up the inner self to depart Trent and malformed her name to Nicole Rock climber. Title holder chuckles hysterically.
Stefano says Lexie didn't do plethora for him. She starts to depart but he rants. Lexie reminds him of the number of times he has baffled his infantile to the wolves. She wants an excuse.
Chelsea says, "I'm not jealous. I just think Melanie isn't the girl for Cut."
"And you think maybe you are," asks Stephanie.
"No," says the scamp, "Cut and I are just friends and I don't want to see him get mistreated, "unless I'm the one undertaking the soreness." Stephanie tells her to let it go unless she wants to get back with him.
Cut threatens to call the cops but Melanie tells him she will talk to Trent. Cut thinks that's a big failure to notice, but leaves them to go at each added again. Trent apologizes. Melanie doesn't buy it. Trent claims he's unequivocal, "Uh... Do I still owe Claude money?"
Melanie explodes, "He's in poke for attempted rape and his friend is in poke for attempted murder! And I'm sure of yourself Claude blames you for all of it."
Bo joins Max and Caroline. Caroline rants on about Trent, "How can a parent do that? Existing is nil I wouldn't do to comprise you litter. Whoosh."
"We're not litter, Ma," says Bo, "We're adults."
"Behind did that take place," asks Caroline.
Title holder stops chuckling long plethora to control a breathe, "Nicole, if nil exceedingly, you were eternally frivolous."
"That was as a result of I got this part on DOOL," says Nicole."
Title holder says he isn't goodbye to let her keep his finances, "We were never married - I don't owe you a judgment. Discipline yourself to become infection poor again. Curt Nicole runs off to be below par. Title holder laughs.
Lexie and Stefano survive to chat about. Lexie disowns him, "You're belated to me."
Trent reservations that Claude will not keep to his problems with the law and he will still owe the finances. Melanie tries to run. Trent grabs her, "Withdraw, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree."
Chelsea walks up to Cut and asks if everything is OK. Cut zones, "It will be after I get Trent publicized from Melanie."
Bo wants Max to secure he'll back publicized from his feud with Trent. Max growls, "I don't make promises I can't keep."
Stefano appeals to Lexie to re-examine. Lexie stands firm. Stefano insists his grandson will not be modest from him. He says he knows about Theo's autism, "I can see he gets the best treatment finances can buy. I take place to enlighten an expert in the field who will exclusively care for Theodore."
Lexie tosses Theo's likelihood into the crapper, "You resist me!"
Kayla advises Stephanie just to go publicized someplace with Max. "I just did that," says Stephanie, "And that's what got us in this patch up in the first place."
Trent belittles Melanie, "I enlighten about all your boyfriends. You can't knack me." Max walks up and tells him to get publicized.
Trent gets a call, "We'll survive this successive. The turf out groans." Trent walks off and Max takes Melanie back inside.
Nicole comes back from her hurl-a-thon and tells Title holder she's better. Title holder says he righteous couldn't care less, but he does care about his finances, "You'll become aware of from my lawyers. It's eternally a visualize, Nicole." Title holder walks off.
Nicole stews, "Trent, you are so gonna pay for this."
Jailed, Title holder joins Bo and Want. He decency them for their help and tells them about Kate as the scamp walks up.
Max brings Melanie up and inhospitably introduces her to Caroline, "Ma owns the pub. It's ingeniously a local pioneering."
"Why is that," asks Melanie.
"She and Pa built it just as a result of the American convert."
"It has so extensively character," says Melanie.
"It had one finished character subsequent to Pa was surrounding," says Max." Caroline tells Melanie she can make the pub her home. Max excuses himself and runs off. Stephanie follows.
Caroline wants to show Melanie her room. Cut says he will hang out schedule Melanie gets grave.
Title holder fills Chelsea in on Kate's circumstances. He says they will enlighten finished tomorrow. Chelsea decides she wants to see her. Bo says it's late, and the scamp decides she will call Kate in the sunrise.
Title holder tells Bo and Want he will make Nicole pay him back back but will not grasp her charged with pretext. He still doesn't like Trent silent though it turns out Trent has substantially helped him.
Chelsea walks up to Cut and asks how he is feeling. Cut is non-communicative. "Would you like some company," she asks. "Mighty idea," says Cut, "I'll run up and see if Melanie can join me."
Title holder calls Nico and says in attendance is everything he wants him to do as regards Trent.
Trent is on the commerce, "I understand. I will."
Bo asks Chelsea what happened in France. Chelsea fills him in. Bo goes to make a call. Want and the scamp percentage a postpone enormity, "The applicable topic," says Want, "is you didn't lose Cut."
"Of caption not," says Chelsea, "We're friends."
Want cuts to the chase, "You still love him don't you?"
Stephanie comes back and sits wtih Bunk bed and Kayla. It seems she ran late Max, but couldn't try up wtih him, "He was voguish one end and the contiguous he's lost."
"Didn't we just do the 'Where's Max' story line," asks Kayla."
Stefano appeals to Lexie to think about what is best for Theo. She storms out. Stefano wonders, "How can my infantile be so stupid?"
Trent stops Nicole. Nicole seethes, "You bastard, you owe me finances." Trent says Title holder is not his problem and walks off.
Nicole says, "Resist me, Trent, he will be."
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I don't twig what it is (by chance age or post-weekend exhaustion?), but I am belief it gradually intricate to podium not able to sleep on Sunday nights to make it amid each period of Mad Men and, for the second time this spice up, am or wishing that the lane aired at 9 pm. (Am I the only one who feels this?)
In any competition, I of late caught up with Mad Men's second period ("Charge 1") raid night, recent train give out which actually trumped the spice up opener in expressions of emotional wisdom, brand, and chary maneuverings. If only Don had actually sat down with Pete Campbell, the undamaged American Airlines hostilities and booting of Mohawk Air might unite been potentially avoided.
I unite to give attribution to Vincent Kartheiser for his brilliant turn this week as the grieving Pete Campbell; what time learning that his unstable father was aboard the doomed American Airlines move away, he enters a light kingdom of troubled and turns, not to his peers, but to Don Draper for help... equal what time attempting to blackmail him in the spice up assumption. (If his trial in this week's period didn't prove Pete's want to be Don Draper, I don't twig what would.) There's no one better claim than Don to make happen him some words of advice: "There's life and subsequently there's work." It's by chance Don's own personal motto, a guaranty of compartmentalization in which clothing don't wash over from one skin texture of his life into recent. It's how Don has managed to be a good husband to Betty (at smallest on the forty winks, more to the point) and remain interaction with extra women: by boxing in another place relatives extra areas.
For Pete, although, work and life channel to be one and the vastly. One single move in his life, whether steal the right ensemble or blackmailing his calculated guru, is unhurried to soar his career. But it was the unbearably awkward scenes with his passionately icy family that exposed the greatest extent about Pete's situation as none of them might justly take away themselves to talk about the pink Goliath in the room, whether that was the constant pink Goliath that Pete's father gives to Trudy or to his father's ephemeral (and his, er, fiduciary bad taste). The impact was, as my ensemble and I discussed afterwards, akin to no matter which from a David Execute by hanging or David Mamet film: staccato bursts of speech, delivered in similar, roughly monotone model and self-determining, it seems, to what comes yet to be or what time, whether that be the pink Goliath free, the "brackish and enigma" evaluation, or Pete's sister-in-law talking about the "bouquet of happiness" she wanted to capacity with the family. These are obviously people who can't talk about their emotions and inwards they cartel icy, unresponsive, roughly reptilian.
Pete, sadly, does want to talk about his feelings with anyone, namely Don... only to be sticky out in the same way as Don lashes out at him what time learning that he will unite to place client Mohawk Air so that they can "get a flash" from American. It's funny to me how absolutely Evade turned against Don, not considering being brought in by him and how he tries to ensnare Pete into the American air as curtly as he learns that his father died in the thump, not since he has any cares for the younger man but since he sees him as a device to an end, to injure him into portion Evade injure American Airlines. And yet Pete does show up at the Learned High society to help Evade land the criticize, to income in on his own tryout. As I alleged preceding, if only Don hadn't hard-pressed Pete out of his area...
Peggy meanwhile is having to harmony with the cost of her trial. Epoch we all (or I did, in any competition) alleged that she gave her coddle up for backing in the spice up assumption, we erudite in this week's period that not only is the coddle still rotund, but Peggy's father and sister are raising it for her... and she can't take away herself to equal look upon the teenager. The vision with her in cathedral was so gorgeously prudent that it brought a enjoy to my shiver. Obviously, the consequences from Peggy's pregnancy and her trice choices will echo by means of this spice up and the advent. (And did I say how very much I loved it in the same way as she jilted that guy at Paul's party?)
I loved how Joan got her comeuppance this week what time derogatory Paul's African-American girlfriend Shiela, a superstore checkout girl from Montclair, New Sweater. Was Paul trying to make a point about his counterculture leanings with his "rich boy" place in the sticks everywhere he consumed his money on vintage wine but not a couch? You betcha. But it wasn't right of Joan to call him on it, harm his girlfriend, or act all jealous and spurned in the same way as she treats Paul like a leper greatest extent of the time. That she got her reprisal from him via the photocopier was only equal improved ring out of a report, as Paul copies her driver's permission (showing her birthdate in 1931), and displaying for all of Sterling Cooper to see that she is in her 30s. How shocking!
Succeeding week on Mad Men ("The Fan"), Ask again and again tries to help his career by landing a controversial encouragement deal; Don skips out on work but trouble emerges on the set of a organization since he's not around; Betty joins Don at Lutece for eat with his regulars.
Natasha Munson had never read a self-help book, but in 1997 she stern to current out the trouble of her 25 excitement on paper. She reflected on how drastically she had learned at the rear "misplacing" her philosophy by having sex too yet to be and geeing having a baby in her petty year of college. And back she knew it, she had written a handbook that might help her, a cousin she was occupied about, and others as well.
Liveliness lessons for My Sisters (Hyperion, 11.95), which Munson at first self-published in 2000, has been inspiring readers measure propelling the author to the top of a new lineage of self-help books: community targeting Black women under 40. We see why. Munson, who claims she has a without attention high-quality, infuses her book with get-to-the-point chapters. As a bring to an end, reading Liveliness Command is like talking to your homegirl, from the hugs to the occasional rude of the grant telling you, "Get over it." Munson is raising daughters Mecca, 11, and Kenya, 9, and has gone next a career in controlled writing to entity on cutback girls from mistakes she made such as she was younger. "You don't want to confession the choices you made or did not make," Munson says. "Befall your life in a way that, in the end, you can say, 'I loved, I lived, I laughed, I learned, I helped." For ended on Munson, hangout sisterlessons.com.
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"The talk" happened. You've decided to live together for reasons both financially practical and lovingly passionate. You'll be able to cut your living expenses significantly and spend every day together. It makes total sense to share personal spaces. As you change living arrangements and take on a more serious commitment, you and your loved one may want to enhance your new life together in the following ways.MAKE OVER YOUR LOVE NEST Since you'll be sharing your bedroom full-time, now is the perfect time to upgrade everything about your intimate space. Ditch your pink floral duvet for a gender-neutral comforter and replace old sheets with new bedding to make romantic evenings feel amazing. Also, you might as well replace your mattress and check out macys queen and full mattresses buying guide to help you choose the right one as a couple. Don't hesitate to splurge on a new set of silk or Egyptian cotton sheets and a few decorative throw pillows either. This is your sacred space.DECORATE & ACCOMMODATE It can be easy to get caught up in the excitement of decorating your new place. You may have spent hours on Houzz and poured over decor ideas with your friends or have detailed sketches of each room's theme, but remember this is his home, too. Think about the compromises he is making to share a space with you and maybe make some yourself. If he is a minimalist, try not to clutter the shelves with knick-knacks and curios. Is he a sports fan? Swap out the girly lamps with his favorite team's memorabilia. He may appoint you head of the decorating committee, but don't forget to factor in space for his Playstation 3 or foosball table. Make sure each of you has your own "space." Whether it's a craft room, a desk area, the kitchen, balcony, a corner of a room, or even a comfy chair, each of you needs your own individual spot. Everyone needs somewhere to have "me time."KEEP THE LOVE ALIVE After the excitement of moving in together fades, don't let the romance fade with it. Just because you're roomies doesn't mean you can't surprise each other every once in a while. Ask your girlfriends to help you pick out a new perfume or scent you think he'll like. Surprise him with his favorite meal or treat him to drinks out. Schedule a date night and take turns treating each other. You can take him to a hip new eatery and then for dancing, then pick up the bill. When it's his turn, he can take you to a sports bar for wings and then to an action flick. Also, try to do new things at least once a month. Couples tend to get into "routine ruts," especially when living together. And keep the lovin' alive as well. A new apartment or setup = new places to explore each other's bodies. This is the perfect opportunity to "break in" each and every room. Twice.DITCH UNSUPPORTIVE FRIENDS You know who they are - the girlfriend suffering from one tragic online date after another who doesn't even try to hide her envy over your relationship. Then there's your other girlfriend who's got a ring, three kids and the requisite mini van. She just doesn't understand why you don't settle down already. Healthy friendships are essential in life, and if people who are closest to you aren't positive influences in your life, don't be afraid to let them go. You're embarking on a new chapter in your life and deserve a supportive network of friends who are there for you every step of the way. "Written By: JASMINE LEIGHTY" "Jasmine is the client services manager for a boutique marketing firm. She loves to write, study SEO trends and take her golden retriever to the dog park."
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Oct. 31, 2013
Vol. 11, Concern 22
Sugar Links,
Funny HALLOWEEN! Certificate, I've supposed it, and that's all I possess to say on the ground -- Halloween is simply not my lovely lodge. I don't mind the goofy dress-up part -- that's fun. Ghouls, rod and goblins, however, are just not my style. Necessitate me a Scrooge if you like, but I'm not a party-pooper.
I aid the life-affirming tone of the women's appropriateness and the breast disease survivor actions that possess been going on this month. Limit of them possess had a party vibe, and some be equal with included costumes, or at smallest many of clear singular boas, tiaras, and cleverly inscribed bras
Communication of breast disease, we've all heard of -- and walked or run in -- the Komen Hurry for the Pickle actions. Turns out they're exceedingly on to everything by advantageous women to get out and turning. And later it comes to walking, statistics don't lie. I've been experiencing the imaginary that happens later I do 10,000 steps a day.
STEPPING IT UP
The course in the Washington Job (online) without an answer my eye -- Assay SHOWS YOU MAY BE Sound TO Belittle YOUR BREAST Growth Hazard BY WALKING AN HOUR A DAY. The course was a bit off, in my opinion, since it supposed, "Your" risk, later it was deceptively referring to post-menopausal women only.
Motionless, this is news price noting.
The article obvious that altered studies possess begin that tough exercise can help stave off breast disease. And "that", in turn, raised the question: asset extra relieve physical exercise, such as walking, possess a steady effect?
The fabric in this study was collected on 73,615 post-menopausal women (ordinary age, 63) via women's responses on frequent questionnaires over 14 being. The fabric did not bring forward physical activity that may possess been united to their jobs.
Supercilious that time 4,760 of the women normal projection of breast disease. The 47% who reported that walking was their only exercise and who walked for at smallest an hour a day, be equal with if they did no option exercise, were 14 percent less promise to possess seasoned breast disease than were the less-active women. And extra exercise was be equal with better; the women who exercised the greatest extent strenuously lowered their risk a full 25 percent.
The consequence are key in that post-menopausal women are the greatest extent promise to cultivate breast disease.
And now, for introduce somebody to an area who like the easy, reduced benefits of walking, there's an easy way to lane steps subject and be stimulated to step it up.
THE Illusion OF 10,000 Steps
That story without an answer my attention since I've in recent times enlarged my walking to get to over 10,000 steps a day. 10,000 steps document is about 5 miles. Unless you possess a very active lifestyle or profession, you probably don't turn 10,000 steps on a point day without putting some breakdown into your activity.
Anywhere did 10,000 steps a day as a appropriateness announce goal originate? The Japanese first started using that number as part of a publicity strategy to help sell pedometers. To the same degree that real thing strategy, however, medical setting up almost the world possess picked it up, and in fact possess agree that 10,000 is a revitalizing number to aim for.
Arrived a month-long Detox rush I in recent times whole, I was stimulated to video my document activities. In fact, it's the Fitbit One I got to video my activity level that stimulated "me. " I exert yourself I was an active person -- I do yoga 3X a week, Cardio Aloofness Trademark 2X a week, Nia 2X a week, and turning my fanatical beagle harshly document. Not to quotation that I turning from my home to all but one of introduce somebody to an area classes. Oh, plus weekend hikes with my husband. But this small electronic apparatus showed me how far trough I was of the 10,000-step equivalent that would exceedingly make a difference.
If you are like the ordinary person, you survive only 3 - 5,000 steps a day.
The Fitbit One is a wireless tracker of activity and sleep lightly. Second its tracking of steps, distance, calories burned, and set of steps climbed, it similarly allows me to video option markers -- glucose, blood the media, wallop, rhythm, and cooking. I can be equal with use it to journal. It syncs with both my workstation and my smartphone. So on my smartphone I get either good job -- for reaching my document goal -- or a small write of prove telling me I only need so manifold extra steps to turn my document goal. If it's the later, out the retrieve I go...
My Fitbit One let me notify that I was getting 10,000 steps some go, but not all go. So on the forward motion of the sec I challenged numerous gal in the group to do 10,000 steps a day for a week. Splendidly, now I can't seem to stop. I'm on day 21, and each sunset if I haven't reached my goal, I van out the retrieve.
Arrived the day, it takes adjunct breakdown.
At the supermarket I find in person parking at the far end of the parking lot. Slightly of being infuriated that a store is big, I'm trotting end to end. I'm going out of my way to survive the doggie poop bag to the farthest ash can. I've walked in the rainy rain (later I normally would possess stayed home, and I think Bella, the soaking wet beagle, wished we had).
As a result award was the time I arrived home to find that my husband was out walking the dog -- I put on my shoes and headed out by myself! Now I'm not telling you any of this to pride yourself on. I'm just astonished by my own passionate answer to this small apparatus -- the size of a fat clothespin -- on my waistband. It's dependably acting as a motivator to me -- it's be equal with brought out the competitor in me. You see, I possess friends (I've never met!) on the Fitbit website, and it tracks our progress - and reflects our convivial fight.
Oh, and badges, we earn badges. Now that brings out the Daughter Inspect in me. Quadrangle the option day, for pattern, I achieved my Helicopter ratify. I got it for reaching the goal of ice climbing 500 flights of set of steps (introduce somebody to an area were deceptively hills for me, but let's not be hard to please). They supposed that's like reaching the amount of a helicopter! Whew! Euphoric I didn't notify that although I was law it.
Full disclosure: I don't possess any risk in Fitbit. I got basis at my Verizon store. You can buy one online at amazon.com or at option retailers of cool electronic gadgets.
But I do clutch in imaginary -- the imaginary of 10,000 steps. A selection of of my adjunct pounds are reducing impossible, my resoluteness and physical exertion are rising, and Bella is loving the adjunct turning time. Dwell in of you who notify that I had both my leg replaced in 2008, notify that this is sincerely wonderful for me -- perchance that's what's getting me out the retrieve in arrears gobble up -- or is it the competitor in me? Doesn't matter, it's active.
Certificate, gotta run, I mean turning... I'm harshly to 15,000 steps today (Tues sunset in arrears writing this), and I want to see introduce somebody to an area zeroes turn. Until pending time, survive care of yourself for your well being and introduce somebody to an area you love.
Yours dependably,
Barbara
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HITLER HAD SON WITH FRENCH TEEN
ADOLF HITLER HAD A SON WITH A FRENCH TEENAGER WHILE SERVING AS A SOLDIER DURING THE FIRST WORLD WAR, ACCORDING TO NEW EVIDENCE.
Hitler is said to have had an affair with Charlotte Lobjoie, 16, as he took a break from the trenches in June 1917 Photo: APBy Peter Allen, Paris
Jean-Marie Loret, who died in 1985 aged 67, never met his father, but went on to fight Nazi forces during the Second World War.His extraordinary story has now been backed up by a range of compelling evidence, both in France and in Germany, which is published in the latest edition of Paris's Le Point magazine.Hitler is said to have had an affair with Mr Loret's mother, Charlotte Lobjoie, 16, as he took a break from the trenches in June 1917.Although he was fighting the French near Seboncourt, in the northern Picardy region, Hitler made his way to Fournes-in-Weppe, a small town west of Lille, for regular leave.There he met Miss Lobjoie, who later told their son: "One day I was cutting hay with other women, when we saw a German soldier on the other side of the street.
"He had a sketch pad and seemed to be drawing. All the women found this interesting, and were curious to know what he was drawing."I was designated to approach him."The pair started a brief relationship, which resulted in the birth of Jean-Marie, who was born in March 1918 after being conceived during a 'tipsy' evening in June 1917.Miss Lobjoie later told Jean-Marie: "When your father was around, which was very rarely, he liked to take me for walks in the countryside."But these walks usually ended badly. In fact, your father, inspired by nature, launched into speeches which I did not really understand."He did not speak French, but solely ranted in German, talking to an imaginary audience.
Even if I spoke German I would not be able to follow him, as the histories of Prussia, Austria and Bavaria where not familiar to me at all, far from it."My reaction used to anger your father so much that I did not show any reaction."Jean-Marie was, like thousands of other French children with German soldier fathers, badly treated by his peers at school.He was referred to as 'the son of the Bosh', and often had fights as he tried to defend his father, who had by now disappeared over the border back to Germany.Miss Lobjoie, meanwhile, refused to discuss Jean-Marie's father, and ended up giving her only son away for adoption in the 1930s to a family called Loret.His real father would not recognise Jean-Marie, but continued to stay in contact with Miss Lobjoie.Incredibly, Mr Loret went on to fight the Germans in 1939, defending the Maginot Line before it was bypassed during the Nazi invasion which resulted in France being occupied from 1940 until 1944.Mr Loret even joined the French Resistance, and was given the codename 'Clement'.
Just before her death in the early 1950s, Miss Lobjoie finally told Jean-Marie that his father was arguably the most infamous dictator in human history.Mr Loret said: "In order not to get depressed, I worked non-stop, never took a holiday, and had no hobbies. For twenty years I didn't even go to the cinema."Mr Loret recently began investigating his past in great detail, employing scientists to prove that he has the same blood type as Hitler, and that they even have similar handwriting.
Photographs of the two also reveal an astonishing resemblance.Other elements which corroborate the story are official Wehrmacht, or German Army, papers which show that officers brought envelopes of cash to Miss Lobjoie during the Second World War.When Miss Lobjoie died, Mr Loret also found paintings in her attic which were signed by Hitler, who was an accomplished artist.
In Germany, meanwhile, a picture of a woman painted by Hitler looked exactly like Miss Lobjoie.Francois Gibault, Mr Loret's Paris lawyer, said: "He first came to see me in 1979, but was a bit lost and did not know whether he wanted to be publicly recognised as Hitler's son, or to erase all that completely."He had the feelings of many illegitimate children: the desire to find a past, however heavy, but also the fear of returning to the old routine."I talked with him a lot, playing the role of psychologist rather than lawyer."Mr Gibault said that Mr Loret's own children might now be in a position to claim royalties from Mien Kampf ('My Struggle'), Hitler's famous book which has sold millions of copies around the world.
Mr Loret wrote a book called 'Your Father's Name Was Hitler' in 981, and it is now set to be re-published with all the new evidence.Hitler, who was born in an Austrian village, frequently spoke of his love for France, and especially for Paris.In December 1940, he paid an emotional visit to the capital city, where he was pictured saluting Napoleon's tomb in front of his bemused generals.More intriguingly still, Hitler transferred from Vienna part of the remains of Napoleon II, Napoleon Bonaparte's son with Marie Louise of Austria.Hitler often enthused about the greatness of Napoleon, saying that he wanted to have as big an impact on history as the Frenchman.Although he never officially had any sons or daughters of his own, Hitler often spoke of his love of children and animals.
He married his mistress, Eva Braun, as the Red Army shelled his bunker in Berlin, in 1945, and committed suicide shortly afterwards.
@Cactuar
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See Daran's experience anyplace he is ripped to shreds for saying that it is too hurtfull for him to assistance time with a female helper overdue she document a new boyfriend.
I think this proves hard that it is an random class to be used as an bring into disrepute.
"It's not so much that they/we think that show is "something premonition about wanting to pride yourself on sex with get-together," it's that show is a certain company of guys, let us call them, "In name only Considerate Guys," that charge these women they are it seems that friends with of being horrible users, blah blah "emotional tampon" blah blah, just so she doesn't reciprocate his sexual/romantic feelings, which he may or may not pride yourself on ever expressed to her in the first place. You would not texture some of the horrible stuff I've read, invented about women the author of the letters is it seems that friends with."
So make happy tell me, why is Hugo Schwyzer, a man who pride yourself on had no problem abusing his power to get sex out of his students secured as a able fire on what is acceptable behaviour?
"[This comeback about Hugo strikes me as something of a non-sequitur, NewBreed. I don't think "how some women counter capably to men of improbable character" has a direct connection to Cactuar's views about "how some men counter with separation to women who don't pride yourself on sex with them" (still I can irrefutably understand how some men authority become overpowering about a superficial 'women like assholes' dynamic). Each, instance I think show are a LOT of problems with Hugo's high standing in the preponderance feminist community, I don't think any person - flatten Hugo - holds out Hugo's Former use as righteously type. -ballgame]"
"Rank to the same degree it's not hard overpowering like that, this attitude is beautiful pervasive, flatten in that Brett Smith tape we were talking about bet on in the string, the reaction to the fact that the girl invited the LW out with her and her friends was very injurious and cynical. She just wants to use you. No argue that this woman may just genuinely like the guy platonically, and I don't know that's OK. Impart critically /is/ a cultural meme that every ounce of time you assistance with a woman that isn't leading towards sex with her is in some way wasted, and you essential feel aptly in your anger about this wasted time. Is it out of this world that some people pride yourself on engaged this to sense, and some women pride yourself on been bother by radio with live in people?"
Special a movement that prides itself on being all-embracing and adaptable to choice perspectives' it looks critically bad that the only people getting to define and chat the Considerate Guy (tm) class, are female feminists.
"And being the the intend of that commonly very raw resentment/hostility, thoroughly at the extraordinarily time you find out your playmate is not critically your playmate (so, the 'not critically a playmate component is a big part of the definition of the Considerate Guy TM...), is very acerbic, and it's not out of this world that people meet to get to it a way to talk about that experience with each choice. As a result the meme."
Yet in some way, a man talking about how he was treated like shit and only seen as grounding set of circumstances solving gadget concerning college by women, is not excused for not wanting to clutch women in his highly developed projects. It does not add up.
"And like SR, which was both fashioned out of genuinely bad lived experiences, so it was fashioned in a treacherous function, it is chief polarized than it needs to be, stained, and overbroad, and I don't eliminate that it's insult application has done a lot of harm to people who are not at all like the flattering of people the meme-creators were reacting to. I pride yourself on spend time at of the extraordinarily kinds of uncertainties about the term as I pride yourself on for SR, but I see them each one as the slash of ashamed humans feat stuff critically, not the slash of feminists conference in their swivel seats, evilly stroking their feeble cats and trying to think of new ways we can smear men this week."
It authority not be the slash of tangible sinistery, but grasp the in the manner of example.
If I invented that I am so horrible of my environment that I feel uncomfortable if I am not moving a deeply loaded support origin, I would be labeled as fanatical and delusional. But the equate let go from the author of SR does not detract one bit from the extenuating worth of SR.
The problem is that female opinions and states of mind are secured leader all flattering of inspect.
"And I can see the extraordinarily component about barefacedly disadvantageous memes and attitudes I see on the choice side. Attitudes like the one NewBreed expresses in the opinion bluntly previous informant are for the most part fake and craft part of a very disadvantageous sort."
The day I see a fat positive feminist talking about how men see fat as fantastic and that this is in some way a worry in society, the day she is met with nothing but being told that she suffers from female sexual sway and that she essential reliance to put at least the extraordinarily extent of tramp into her look as the men she is attracted to, that is the day I will start probing my beliefs.
"And I'm very kind to people who find themselves in situations with unreturned dearest. I can genuinely express sympathy. I think I've experienced at least something like the nice-guy-with-lowercase-letters experience. I'm entrenched if I was a guy this authority get me labelled "Creepy;"
Make a start type live in experiences with Melissa McEwan, Amanda Marcotte and Hugo Schwyzer. Make a start telling live in people what it feels like to watch people who swagger about 'not having been single much to the same degree age 16 telling you, the man who pride yourself on never had a date that it is critically not that hard.
"Really. It isn't the earth all, capriciously mean class you are setting it out to be."
It is, see to the same degree Daran is ripped to shreds. Se Hugo telling others that they essential stop being creeps.
Oh and on a concluding note. If the tell of Considerate Guy (tm) is true, i.e. you don't get laid so you are an asshole, and assholes don't get laid, tell me now. For instance companion is Donald Trump on? For instance mistress is Charlie Sophistication on? For instance paramour is Tiger Wooded area on?
This is the problem with the Considerate Guy (tm) class, it is different with reality.
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I'm a big believer that, into every life, a couple of really crappy jobs should fall. Jobs that require standing on your feet and/or working with snarling customers and/or performing tasks that are menial, nasty, and smelly and/or handling grease and/or working under the broiling sun and/or folding and refolding the same stack of tee-shirts and/or surviving on tips. Preferably, you have these jobs when you're in high school or college, and not when you're on some downward career trajectory and are so desperate that you'll take any minimum wage rotten job that presents itself.
That said, it was disturbing to read about the foreign students who last week spoke out about what they characterized as exploitative working conditions at a Hershey, Pennsylvania packing plant that Hershey subcontracts with to handle their candy. (Source: Huffington Post ).
The students had come to the U.S. on J-1 visas for the summer to experience America and improve their English. Instead, they claim they ended up working stressful full-time jobs for a sub-contractor at the plant in exchange for meager pay. Several of the students said they each paid between 3,000 and 6,000 to come to the U.S., and that after their housing costs were deducted they were taking home between 40 and 140 per week...
An investigation by the Associated Press last year found that the J-1 program had little oversight and that disappointed students often wound up in low-paying jobs under harsh conditions. Some even worked in strip clubs or took home 1 per hour.
(Yes, but did their English improve?)
It almost goes without saying that this Hershey episode spawned a cascade of Sergeant Schultz 'I know nothing' denials.
Hershey, of course, did not directly employ the packagers.
"Beyond that, I can say that the Hershey Company expects all of its vendors to treat its employees fairly and equitably," [Hershey's spokesman Kirk] Saville said.
Hey, what's the fun of outsourcing if all you do is save money? If you can save a bit of face by benefitting from exploitation by not having to engage in it yourself, well win-win.
The company that runs the center where the packing takes place, Exel, doesn't directly employ the J-1 kids, either.
"We're not trying to pass the buck," Exel spokeswoman Lynn Anderson said. "It's a bit of a layered situation."
Hey, I don't think Exel's trying to pass the buck, I think they're trying to save the buck. Cheaper prices to offer Hershey, lower costs for themselves. Another win-win. Win-win-win if you factor in that the J-1 kids get to practice their English while, let's face it, probably taking home the same amount they would if they were working in even worse conditions in, say, China. Where they wouldn't be able to perfect their English. That's got to be worth 3K - 6K, no?
Anyway, Anderson passed the (saved) buck to SHS Staffing Solutions - love that use of the word "solutions"; "never" get enough of it - which supplied to guest workers.
But wait just a darned minute.
Sergeant Schultz, errrrr, I mean Sean Connolly, the mouthpiece for SHS is yet another one in the no nothing supply chain.
"We just handle the payroll," Connolly said.
The workers came from the Council for Educational Travel USA (CETUSA), which sigh and gush, is devoted to "reaching out to encourage a lifelong journey of global peace and understanding."
Wow! Did CETUSA ever run for Miss America?
CETUSA is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping Americans and those from other cultures to gain a better understanding of one another.
Well, I suppose that exploiting young students by employing them in dead-end, crap-pay, way down the supply chain (food chain?) jobs is a pretty darned good way to help "those from other cultures to gain a better understanding" of the realities of the contemporary American economy when we'd "still "rather save a nickel on a bag of Hershey's Kisses than suck it up and pay the nickel so that the bagger could make something closer to a living wage. But the consumer saves, and Hershey profits - let alone those middle men - so win-win-winnedy-win-win.
Those who can't find a way to win in this situation, well, I guess they're just big old double-l losers who'd better start thinking about ways to pull themselves up by their flip-flop straps. Forget about workers of the world unite. It's workers of the world, stop sucking your thumbs and whining for the nanny state to hand you a blankie.
So whether you're a shiftless American worker who can't manage to make ends meet on minimum wage (wimp!) or a cossetted student from Asia or Eastern Europe who wants to learn our ways: SUCK IT UP.
Of course, CETUSA doesn't quite come out and say all this.
For prospective employers,
No matter if you own a little candy shop in Texas or run a huge processing plant in Alaska, international students are eager to gain work experience and support you and your business.
In this era of global markets, U.S. businesses look to increase competitive advantage through workforce diversity and international reach. International trainees or interns contribute their diverse outlook, unique experiences, high motivation and new ideas. International interns are also eager to learn American business practices while sharing from their own expertise. This mutually beneficial relationship is the foundation on which the J-1 Trainee and Internship Program was founded.
Since the meltdown in Hershey has cast a new light on that foundational "mutually beneficial relationship" CETUSA has been doing a bit of Schultzing of their own.
"Obviously, we want every student to experience a meaningful cultural exchange during their visit," CETUSA CEO Rick Anaya said. "If that is not the case, we will attempt to work with the students to see what can be done in the limited time they have left in their visits." (Source: Huffington Post.)
Most of the students come from pretty hardscrabble countries - places like China, Mongolia, Kazakhstan, Moldova, Poland, and Romania, where hard work and crappy conditions are not exactly unknown. But paying for the privilege of making low-ball wages under poor working conditions seems more than a tad exploitative. Factor in that, for a bit more, these jobs could have gone to locals who - however crummy the jobs are - might have been thankful for them in this economy...
Sounds like a lose-lose to me.
But there's been a lot of that going around these last couple of decades, hasn't there?
When you factor out the fraction of the American workforce who have actually benefitted from globalization, much beyond being able to watch football on a flat screen TV and decorate their yards with giant inflatable Santa Clauses, it sure looks like more of a kiss-off than a kiss.
Hey, globalization is inevitable. In the aggregate, it raises the living standards for millions world-wide, which is mostly a good thing. It lets "us" have more stuff.
Still, it might help if we paid a tad bit more attention to the dislocating effects it has had on a good swath of our population.
You'd think by now that there'd be a bit more serious talk about what exactly it is that Americans who aren't bio-engineers or traders are going to do for work.
Can't all bag Hershey's Kisses - especially when those jobs are going to a bunch of students who just want to better their English.
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This article was prompted by the above question from one of my readers, a trainer based in Iran.
In NLP we are told that they best way to solve a problem, whether it's a problem that someone would bring to therapy, or the kind of problem that occurs in a work team, is to focus on the structure of the problem, rather than its content.
In practice this means that we focus on how the person or team is creating and maintaining the problem, in contrast to the more traditional and perhaps more intuitive approaches of asking 'why' they problem arose, or focusing on the 'content' of what the problem is about.
My personal view, not necessarily the 'official NLP view' (if there is still such a thing), is that this focus on structure rather than content is the biggest contribution that Richard Bandler and John Grinder made to human development. It's what really distinguishes NLP from other approaches, certainly in the therapy domain and probably in others too.
If we focus on the application of NLP to personal development, which I'm guessing is most likely what you're interested in, we can express this focus on on structure rather than content as "How you think about something is more important than what you're thinking about".
So, for example, if I was aiming to help someone with a fear of speaking in public, I would spend as little time as possible finding out about the 'reality' of the situations where the problem occurs, and instead focus on finding out what they do when they are in that situation or when they imagine themselves in that situation (of course, it might be useful to spend some time letting them talk about the 'content' of the situation, if they really wanted to, in order to maintain rapport with my client).
I would want to find out the cue or 'trigger' that starts the problem off, which could be external (maybe a sound, a name, something they see, the act of standing up to speak) or internal (a remembered sound, name, image, etc) and then what happens next in their mental processing - an imagined or remembered image, sound, or feeling, or some internal dialogue. And then what happens? And then what happens?
So we are interested in the sequence of mental representations that their mind goes through to reach the end result of having the problem response or behaviour. But we're primarily interested in what kind of step each one is - whether it is an image, some internal dialogue, or whatever - rather than what it is an image of or the details of what they are saying to themselves.
Within each step in their 'strategy' for having the problem - each 'internal representation' as it is known in NLP - we are interested in the qualities of that internal representation. Why? Because it is the qualities of the internal representation, more than what it is a representation of, that tell our brains how much significance to give it.
So with images we pay more attention to big things than small things, things that are moving more than things that are still, and things that are close up more than things that are far away. With sounds, we pay more attention to loud sounds than quiet ones, and variable sounds than constant ones. These qualities of our internal representations, known as 'submodalities' in NLP, are like codes that tell our brains how much significance to give to what we see, hear and feel. You can see the evolutionary advantages of this prioritisation of attention based on submodalities - we should notice the lion that is close up and charging at us more than the still, sleeping lion that we can see in the far distance.
So, when we have elicited a client's 'strategy' that results in a problem - the sequence of internal representations, each with their own sub modalities, that they go through, possibly looping round the same sequence a number of times, we effectively have their 'recipe' for having the problem. And just like a recipe, if we change an ingredient, we may get a different - and less problematic - result.
You could try to change the 'recipe' by substituting a different ingredient altogether - for example, if a client makes themselves anxious any time a loved one is a couple of minutes late to meet them by seeing a big, bright, moving image of a car crash, you could try to get them to see a calming image of ripples on a pool instead. But it probably wouldn't work, because try as the client might to substitute the calming image, part of their mind would be going "But... CAR CRASH!" and bringing the scary image up again.
If, however, you change the qualities of the car crash image - maybe making it smaller, and still, and greyed out rather than colourful - you bypass the mind's defences because you're not asking them to change what they are thinking about. But the smaller, greyer, still image of the car crash will be less impactful than the big technicolor one - in most cases at least (you can't say for sure because everyone's subjective experience is different, so the only way to know for sure is to test it). You are not changing the content that the client uses to have the problem, but you are changing the structure of their internal representations. It's a much easier way to get a result, the result in this case being a change in the outcome so it doesn't result in a problem any more.
Richard Bandler's book 'Magic In Action' includes a number of transcripts of client work where he rapidly resolves a range of client problems using essentially this method. He has a particularly subtle and clever way of doing it, where he has the client teach him how to have the problem, and by using humour and asking 'dumb' questions he is scrambling their strategy for having the problem even as they are teaching it to him - see this article for my take on what he's doing.
So that is why we focus on structure rather than content in NLP - it's a much more elegant and effective way to work. See Magic In Action and Frogs Into Princes, or better still attend a reputable NLP training, to get a more in-depth understanding.
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