In fact, even if the RELATIONSHIP was an unhealthy one, some people have a wish to get back together with their ex. Please, may I say that if yours was a violent or emotionally abusive relationship, please run the other way and consider yourself lucky that you are now out of it.
However, if you believe that your relationship is worth saving, then I recommend you start with the following four steps to put it back on track and GET BACK TOGETHER WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND:
* APOLOGIZE. Despite the famous movie line, "Love means never having to say you're sorry," in reality, saying you are sorry is an excellent place to start putting a relationship back together. But, be sure to say you're sorry for the right reasons, and don't take all the blame for everything that went wrong. Keep in mind that a successful relationship takes two people, so knowing exactly what to apologize for is critical. And whatever you do, don't let your ex-boyfriend turn your apology into another argument. If you say you're sorry and he brings up another issue, do your best to not get defensive. Stay calm, and keep your emotions, ego, and pride under control.
* SIT DOWN TO TALK THINGS OUT. If your ex-boyfriend will agree, set up a time where the two of you can meet for a talk. However, don't try to force him into this. If he's not willing to see you, just move on to the next step. If he is agreeable, you will want to talk objectively about any issues you had. Whatever you do, keep it low-key and avoid assigning any blame. Ideally, if the two of you can involve a relationship therapist, that would be the best way to achieve a good result with this.
* GIVE EACH OTHER SOME SPACE. Although this may seem counter-intuitive, you need to remember that your ex-boyfriend broke up with you - he may not want to see you as frequently as you want to see him. If you can take some time apart before you try to win him back, it will give him a chance to cool down a bit and also a chance for him to miss you. If you are constantly trying to get in touch with him, you are not giving this a chance to happen..
* SHOW HIM THAT YOU VALUE YOURSELF. If you appear desperate, clingy, or whiny, you are not making yourself very attractive to anyone, least of all you EX-BOYFRIEND. If you mope around the house, checking your email every few minutes and waiting for him to call or text, you are not doing yourself any favors either. Get out and live your life! Hang out with friends, go to movies or to dinner, take a shopping trip, anything to help you stop feeling sorry for yourself and enjoying life again. One other benefit of getting out is this: if you are not home when your ex calls, he will wonder who you are with and what you are doing! If he calls your cell phone, let your voicemail take a message and call him back the next day. If you let him know that you are busy without him, it may shock him to the point that he will start to pursue you again!
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