If you have a girlfriend who has got some serious trust issues that lead you to your breaking point, you may need some extreme degrees of understanding to be able to handle it well.
SIGNS THAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND HAS TRUST ISSUES
More often than not, your girlfriend's trust issues do not surface until at a later part in your relationship. They come off in the beginning as little love remarks and the usual signs of jealousy, like little love nips. They are biting but they don't really hurt, YET.
Here are some indicators that your girlfriend has some trust issues:
Having an insecure girlfriend needs a lot of patience and understanding.
* SHE ALWAYS ASKS ABOUT YOUR WHEREABOUTS AND THE PEOPLE YOU'RE WITH AND WHAT EXACTLY YOU'RE DOING. If she's doing it too often, that's not a simple case of over attractiveness. It comes from her desire to know everything because she thinks what she doesn't know is potentially dangerous. It could be trauma from being cheated on.
* SHE IS HIGHLY SUSPICIOUS OF PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY GIRLS. Everything needs to be verified. Everyone must be known to her. And she eyes every girl suspiciously whenever you're out together.
* SHE THINKS SHE'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH. Trust issues are more internal in nature. You are not the cause of it. Trust issues are always her own gauge of her self-worth. She does not think she's good enough that you might just leave her anytime you please.
* SHE IS BEING CONTROLLING. First she wants to know what you're doing; later she'd want you to do as she intends you to do. Can you blame her? She wants to know that you're not going to stray!
HOW TO DEAL WITH HER TRUST ISSUES
Sure you are not the root cause of it but you can clearly do something about it in your own little way. And you don't need to have a degree in psychology to help her out somehow.
Ask yourself: have you been giving her reasons to flip out? Have you been looking at other girls while you're with her? Do you secretly smile and text people she doesn't know? Not sure whether you're unconsciously? Then read this.
Do you assure her enough? Sometimes, all an insecure girl needs is a regular dose of assurance from you that she is your only one. A few times a month and a regular girl will survive. An extremely insecure girl will need twice or thrice more.
Spend more quality time with her. It will help her get her mind off her doubts.
* TELL HER SHE'S BEAUTIFUL. Show her what she does not see. Never get tired of doing it. It may not fully sink into her brain, but at least whenever she's feeling low, she will remember how beautiful she is in your eyes.
* DO NOT MEET HER RAGE WITH RAGE. When she's angrily poring through your stuff, or being hysterical about how you looked at her hot cousin, don't get mad. It will make you look guilty to her eyes.
* SPEND MORE QUALITY TIME WITH HER. Get hobbies that you can share together.
At some point, if it her insecurity is choking you, confront her about it. Tell her it's not healthy for your relationship and remind her of everything and every single time you've proven to her that you are trustworthy.
Source: umad-dating-advices.blogspot.com
