The Downside To Juggling Dates

The Downside To Juggling Dates
I find that I am unreasonably bothered by those reality television shows where one person will date twenty members of the opposite sex and narrow it down each week until they find "The one". It's an absurd concept that has no practical purpose in the real world.

Sure, there are people who do this, both men and women, but what are they really accomplishing? How can you possibly see this as a precursor to a real relationship? If anything, it may be a great tutorial on how to become a cheater or a player. You might be able to justify it by saying that you wouldn't buy pants without trying on a couple pairs first. But pants don't have feelings and people are not a commodity that can be bought and sold.

I had a friend who decided that he was ready to settle down and find a wife. He had just turned thirty and his plan was to date six women in hopes that one of them would make a perfect partner. He ended up finding himself in a rotation pattern where one or two women would drop out of the running and he would have to replace them with a new contestant. His theory sounded good, dating six women would make him six times more likely to find a wife. The reality was that dating six women made him six times more likely to NOT be taken seriously by six different women.

There's nothing wrong with juggling but let's face it, clowns juggle. If you are looking to have fun and not get serious then this may be a good way to accomplish that. But if you are actually dating with the intention of finding someone to share your life with, you might want to think about dating one person at a time. What message are you really sending by rationing out a small piece of your time to someone who your are treating like a pair of pants that will eventually end up in the garbage or at the thrift store?



Origin: pickup-and-love.blogspot.com

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