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WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE TV SHOW?
I am really enjoying True Detective at the moment - it is so gripping and the two leads are most certainly alphas! I am also a fan of The Big Bang Theory and I can never resist a re-run of Friends for the ultimate in easy entertainment although I do own the entire box-set.
WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE COMFORT FOOD?
It has to some kind of Indian curry. It can be homemade or takeaway but nothing soothes my soul better than a nice, spicy curry. And it has to be spicy - you won't find a Korma in the Grant household! I have a weakness for all the trimmings too - poppadoms with pickles and chutneys, oh and Bombay mix OK so now I am just hungry!
What is your all-time favorite book?
Surely this is an impossible question for any book-lover?! I know this is children's book but The Secret Garden really captured by imagination as a child and it is a book I return to again and again like a warm comforting bath.
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Why should a person who's never read your line, or hasn't read it in a while, pick up one of your books?
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Policy Hors d'oeuvreGIRLFRIEND TOO Allied TO HER MUM?
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Frank, I luggage compartment been anxious about this for aggeeess now. I want to make out if I am being indubitable stupid or people hand out the precise feelings.
I am a 17 blind date old guy and my girlfriend is also the precise age so we haven't motivated out or doesn't matter what.
My relationship with my mum includes no hugging or kissing inaccessible from if she comes back from go to see or everything so a hug is useful. I am not stormily share the credit to my parents.
My girlfriend on the future badge is a cute small girl, she acts cute all the time a bit verdant and trifling but I love her for it. Nevertheless her relationship with her father is a bit special for me like I'm not used to it. Whenever she odds and ends her knee or hits her toe, it's totally to mummy's arms for a big stick and a kiss. Visibly she will come to me as well, I just tell her to grow a beard, I'm such a nice guy ;).
She has a hurt, mummy comes and cuddles her to catch a few '"z"' s and tucks her in so she goes.
Every part of night Even ON Stopover, she has to go give mummy a goodnight kiss and hug.
Today: Girlfriend is stressing out, with refinement work ahhhh. Gives me a hug, me: "REST DOWN COCOON IT'S ALL SO". Accomplished with me, off to mummy who cuddles her for like 5 report and tells her to go to bed as its getting late for her.
Oh and she also sleeps with a prosperous swine.
PS: In bed she doesn't act like a inferior, don't worry!
MY HOUSE: No hugs, no kisses. *I fall over and win my arm* "
that win dad" Dad: "YOU ALRIGHT?" Me: "YEAH I'LL LIVE I BE INCLINED TO". Go bust end of.
In basic terms, is this a bit special, her connection to her mum? Or is it true and I am being a bit silly?
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I broke up with my boyfriend out of anger and my ego since he was not spending much time with me, but as I cooled down after a few days I wanted to get my ex- boyfriend back in my life. To achieve this I thought of various ways like sending him gifts, apologizing to him etc. Then one of my friends suggested me to useVashikaran Spells. Vashikaran is a powerful tool and helps to possess the mind of your beloved. It can also be used to maintain your relationship, bring stability in your life, improving personalities etc.
These spells are very powerful and hence must not be misused.It is strongly suggested that one should perform these spells with correct pronunciation and they really work. I was a bit hesitant when I started and then when I saw that he talked to me I continued performing them with a stronger belief. Day after day I realized that they only helped me to get my ex-boyfriend back. However these spells can even be used by girls who wish to have a boyfriend but have not gained any success. Do not use these spells for lust or for any other harmful purposes. One can even opt for a specialist to perform these spells on her behalf so that no harm is done to any of the concerned people. Besides the above spells Vashikaran puja can be considered. This puja cannot be performed by you; therefore you need to consult a sage who will conduct this ceremony for you. I got this done too to get my ex-boyfriend back. Vashikaran is a quick and effective way and is being used by famous celebrities; a politician etc and is gaining popularity with people belonging to all walks of life. Girls you should not give up, be patient and wait for the effect to show up clearly.As they say "Patience always pays "and so will yours. Next time think twice before breaking up with your boyfriend as true love doesn't comes to you again and again. Relationships are sensitive and must be sensibly dealt with and always remember that you should never take decisions when you are too sad or too annoyed. Vashikaran gives you a second chance to cover up for your mistakes, but this science should not be misused. Use your second chance as your last chance.One can even consider hypnotism techniques like tonality, Phonological Ambiguity, affirmations etc to gain back the trust of your lover. You can apply them at various stages of life. You can even learn this science for the betterment of humanity.
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"The ultimate present to the male population, Ava Gardener was born Christmas Eve, 1922, in a rural impoverished part of North Carolina. She was a true Southern belle, but you might never guess that; her early studio home MGM sent her to a speech coach immediately after signing a contract in 1941 in order to 'correct' her Carolina drawl. She was discovered by a talent scout, who noticed a portrait of the young beauty hanging in the window of her brother's photography store. Though she signed her contract in 1941 (at just nineteen!), it wasn't until five years later that Ava had her first starring role, in the breakout noir thriller The Killers", with Burt Lancaster. The film catapulted her to stardom, but Ava found it difficult to find roles that were challenging to her. Mostly cast as a beautiful 'space-filler' in MGM productions, Ava worked a lot on films produced by other studios. MGM finally gave her the chance to shine again in the 1951 production of "Show Boat", a musical in which she portrayed biracial singer Julie LaVerne. Ava fought aggressively for the role, beating out her good friend and singer Lena Horne. Despite the success of the film and the strength of her performance, Ava was hurt when she found out her vocals were redubbed for the final release of the film. In one of the "That's Entertainment" films, a scene containing Ava's original vocals exists - and they sound lovely! I don't know what MGM was thinking to be honest.
Two years later, Ava shined again in the lavish adventure film "Mogambo", set in Africa and costarring Grace Kelly and Clark Gable. Ava was awarded an Academy Award nomination for her portrayal of the brash 'Honey Bear' Kelly. Playing the femme fatale was a strength of Ava's, who showed this skill yet again in arguably her most famous performance as "The Barefoot Contessa", opposite Humphrey Bogart. The Spanish location shooting changed Ava, who became an avid fan of bullfighting and flamenco dancing during the production and eventually moved to Spain a few years later. She continued to give powerhouse performances in such films as "Bhowani Junction "and" Night of the Iguana".
Ava was married three times; her husbands were Mickey Rooney (1942-1943), Artie Shaw (1945-1946), and to Frank Sinatra (1951-1957). Despite her marriage to Artie Shaw, she and fellow ex-wife of Shaw, Lana Turner, were quite good friends. Ava was said to have been the great love of Frank Sinatra's life. She is credited with helping him turn around his career. When they were first married, Ava was the bigger star and bigger money-maker. Frank was in a career slump, and often borrowed money from Ava to afford presents for his children with Nancy Sinatra. She helped get him his role in "From Here to Eternity" that helped relaunch his career. Hindered by the drinking, busy schedules, and extramarital affairs on both sides, the Gardner-Sinatra marriage was tempestuous at best. Reportedly, Ava became pregnant sometime during her marriage to Sinatra, but had an abortion, causing further strain on their relationship. Though their marriage was tumultuous, he wrote some of his best music ("In the Wee Small Hours", and "Frank Sinatra Sings for Only the Lonely") during their marriage and eventual breakup. When she made "Contessa", a statue of her was given to Frank as a gift. He kept it in her backyard for years after their divorce. It wasn't until he married Barbara Marx in 1976 that he was forced to get rid of it. Sinatra never forgot Ava in his heart; he paid for her medical expenses after her stroke in 1989. She had a famous rapport with her costars. Former "On the Beach "costar Gregory Peck loved Ava so, that after her death in 1990, he took in her longtime housekeeper Carmen Vargas and Ava's Welsh Corgi to live with him.
Ava was set in her convictions. She decided early on in life that there was no point for her to read books for recreation. As a result, she had professed in 1945 (when she was in her early twenties) to having read just two books: "Gone With the Wind", and "The Bible". This lead to a funny encounter between her and J.R.R. Tolkien, when neither of them knew why the other one was famous. This didn't keep her from making friends with other writers, such as Ernest Hemingway (whom she affectionately called 'Papa') - she starred in three film adaptations of his works and often accompanied him to bull fights.
In the end, Ava was a prime example of 'you can take the girl out of the country, but you can't take the country out of the girl.' However gussied up, plucked, primped, and primed Hollywood made her, Ava herself maintained that "I have always been a country girl and still have a country girl's values." She spoke the way she wanted to and didn't censor herself for anyone, to the point that on Australian reporter compared her foul language use to "a sailor and a truck driver having a competition." After throwing a glass of champagne in the face of another reporter who upset her, he wrote that while she was doing it "the only thing I could think of was how bloody gorgeous the woman was."
Some wonderful quotes by Ava:
* After my screen test, the director clapped his hands gleefully and yelled, "She can't talk! She can't act! She's sensational!"
* All I ever got out of any of my marriages was the two years Artie Shaw financed on an analyst's couch.
* When I lose my temper, honey you can't find it anyplace.
* ["On acting"] Nobody ever called it an intellectual profession.
* I must have seen more sunrises than any other actress in the history of Hollywood.
* I haven't taken an overdose of sleeping pills and called my agent. I haven't been in jail, and I don't go running to the psychiatrist every two minutes. That's something of an accomplishment these days.
* Deep down, I'm pretty superficial.
* I couldn't imagine a better place ["than Australia"] for making a film on the end of the world.
* Maybe I just don't have the temperament for stardom. I'll never forget seeing Bette Davis at the Hilton in Madrid. I went up to her and said, "Miss Davis, I'm Ava Gardner and I'm a great fan of yours." And do you know, she behaved exactly as I wanted her to behave. "Of course you are, my dear," she said. "Of course you are." And she swept on. Now that's a star.
* Some people say Liz [Taylor] and I are whores, but we are saints. We do not hide our loves hypocritically, and when in love, we are loyal and faithful to our men.
* I wish to live until 150 years old, but the day I die, I wish it to be with a cigarette in one hand and a glass of whiskey in the other.
* I think the main reason my marriages failed in that I always loved too well but never wisely.
Author : Glory Borgeson
Have you ever experienced a work environment
thats very positive? You look forward to being there, in that
place, with those people, working on those projects. Its
energizing - not in a "cheerleader/rah-rah" manner, but, overall,
it just gives you a positive feeling of energy. Ive worked
in some positive work environments like that and its made a
huge difference in the outcome of the department or company.Its commonly known that when we feel good, we are more energized,
we work better, and were more creative and productive. If you
picture our brains like motors, then feeling good is like
lubrication to the brain. Mental efficiency increases, memory
becomes more acute, our understanding increases, and we make
better decisions.A key leadership quality is the ability to inspire positive
feelings in others, which leads to the outcomes listed above.
When youre a leader, how can you generate this for other people?Your challenge is to find a balance between developing a
positive work environment and helping employees to create
good working relationships with others, and focusing on
your areas (or companys) performance goals.A study of 62 companies, their CEOs, and their top management
teams assessed their enthusiasm, energy, and determination.
It also reviewed the amount of conflict the top teams experienced
in personality clashes, friction in meetings, and emotional
conflicts (i.e. not disagreements about ideas). The study
concluded that the more positive the overall moods were of
people in the top management levels, the more cooperatively
they worked together and the better the companys results at
the bottom line. In contrast, the longer a company was run
by a management team that did not get along, the poorer the
companys results.Common sense tells us that if employees moods are up, they
will more likely do what it takes to please customers,
thereby increasing sales. Leaders can play a role in this.
Since emotions are contagious, leaders have a bigger
responsibility for creating and sustaining the moods of their
employees. By managing their own moods, leaders can drive the
customer service climate at their company and influence
employees to do more for customers.Some research has shown that for every one percent improvement
in service climate, there is a two percent increase in revenue.
In Primal Leadership (2002), Goleman, Boyatzis, and McKee
reported that "how people feel about working at a company
can account for 20 to 30 percent of business performance."Executive coaching can help leaders create and maintain
positive environments and emotions in the midst of challenges.
Becoming aware of your own tendencies and learning how to
improve them goes a long way toward creating a positive,
energizing work environment.While the environment of the workplace is not the only
thing that determines a business performance, it can be a
sizable piece of it. Research by the Gallup organization
and the Hay Group found that 50 to 70 percent of how employees
perceive their companys environment reflects the choices
of the leaders. They found that the bosses create the
conditions that directly affect peoples moods at work and
their ability to work well together and with customers.So what can leaders do to elicit sincere positive emotions
from employees?First, they must become aware of their own emotional
tendencies, and how their emotions affect others in the
workplace.Second, they can develop a plan to make changes to their
own communication style to emit emotions that create an
environment that is positively contagious to those around
them. This plan needs to be strategic in its intention and
attention, without being manipulative of others. Leaders
who have managers reporting to them will eventually want
to include those managers in developing the same type of
plan for themselves.Third, after several months of making and sustaining changes
to their own emotional aura, leaders should expect to enjoy
the fruit of their change in the form of happier, more
enthusiastic employees who consider their work environments
in a very positive light, and who are (mostly consistently)
more focused, productive, and cooperative.A harmonious, energizing work environment is where I want
to be. How about you?What can you start to do this week to begin creating a
more positive workplace?Whats important?
Whats possible?
Is there another perspective?(c) 2005 Borgeson Consulting, Inc.Glory Borgeson is a business coach and consultant, and the president of
Borgeson Consulting, Inc. She specializes in working with executives in the
"honeymoon phase" of a new position (typically the first two years)
to coach them to success. Glory is the newly appointed executives
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"Of all the Australian kids' shows I saw on the Disney Channel during the 1990s -- Spellbinder, Skytrackers, Ocean Girl -- Round the Twist "was the least gay-friendly. It was about the twins Linda and Pete Twist, and their younger brother Bronson, who live in a lighthouse and have paranormal adventures. The title means "over the edge, around the bend":
Have you ever felt like this, when strange things happen,
Are you going round the twist?
There have been four seasons, stretching from 1989 to the present. Pete has been played by Sam Vandenberg, Ben Thomas (left), and Rian McLean, and Bronson by Rodney McLenan, Jeffrey Walker, and Matthew Waters.
As we see often in paranormal series, there is a substantial heterosexist content. All of the characters except Bronson have heterosexual romances, and the plot arcs of each series often involve true love.
Season 1: The kids' dad falls in love with a woman and gets engaged.
Season 2: The ghost of a former lighthouse keeper failed to save a ship carrying his girlfriend.
Season 3: Whoever reads a poem out of Linda's book falls in love (heterosexual love only).
Season 4: A girl from another dimension tries to get Pete to marry her.
Pete, especially when played by Ben Thomas, gets lots of underwear, swimsuit, and semi-nude shots, and there are a few glimmers of gay subtext:
1. The bully-antagonist Richard Gribble has a love-hate relationship with Pete.
2. His friend Tiger may be hanging out with him because he likes him.
3. Some of the ghosts are gay-vague.
Are teens today willing to overlook the constant "boy girl boy girl" chant in search of teenage beefcake and a few moments of potential buddy-bonding?
Reference: relationships-rescue.blogspot.com
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Adams County News, Thursday, October 3, 1906, issue
Delmer Schuler Dies Suddenly
Delmer Schuler, son of Mr. and Mrs. S. S. Schuler, died at their home in the south part of town Sunday morning, September 30, 1906. When the family went to awaken him at the usual time it was discovered that he had died some time during the night. He had made no complaint of feeling bad and had worked all day Saturday at the carpenter trade.
Delmer Schuler was born September 27, 1892, in New Brighton, Pennsylvania. The family moved to Ritzville in 1902, and the young man had bene engaged in the carpenter business since coming here. They resided at Paha for a number of years before coming to Ritzville. He leaves, besides his parents, one sister, Mrs. Holden, and four brothers, Lawrence, George, Harry and Perry. They were all present but Perry, who is in Des Moines, Iowa, attending the Drake university studying for the ministry.
The death of this young man, which came so suddenly, was a severe shock to his many friends, both in business and social circles. Delmer Schuler was a member of the Christian church and was an active worker in both the church and Young People's Christian association.
The funeral services were held at the Christian church Tuesday morning. Rev. W. H. Harris spoke the last words over the body.
Death of Darvin Keller
Darvin Keller, father of Mrs. E. D. Gilson, died at his home at Greenacres, Wash., last Friday morning, September 28, 1906, at the age of 69 years. The deceased was one of the oldest settlers in Adams county, coming here in 1878, and engaged in the mercantile business. He lived here until 1891, when he moved to Kendrick, Idaho, where he resided until last year, when he moved to Greenacres, Wash.
He leaves a wife and five children - Lester Keller of Lewiston, Idaho; Arthur Keller of Springston, Idaho; Ernest Keller, Coeur d'Alene, Idaho; Mrs. Edith Gilson, wife of E. D. Gilson, sheriff of Adams county, and Chester Keller, who lives with his mother at Greenacres, Wash.
Darvin Keller had suffered the past five years with acute rheumatism, which was incurable.
He was closely identified with the early history of the county and many of his old friends who still reside here are pained to hear of his death.
The funeral took place from the First Methodist church at Coeur a'Alene, Idaho, Sunday afternoon at 2:30 o'clock, conducted by Rev. Mr. Barker, the pastor.
Adams County News, Thursday, October 17, 1906, issue
Last issue of Adams County News
Washington State Journal and Adams County News, Thursday, October 24, 1906, issue
J. M. Reader
The funeral services of J. M. Reader were held at Lind last Sunday under auspices of the M. W. A., of which deceased was a member. The interment was in the Sutton cemetery.
Mrs. Mary Elizabeth Dillon
The funeral of Mrs. Mary Elizabeth Dillon were held at the Willis school house north of Ritzville on Monday at 11 o'clock, Rev. B. E. Koontz of the M. E. church here officiating, and the body was buried at Spanjer cemetery. Mrs. Dillon was born in Nebraska forty-three years ago and was married in Nebraska twenty-three years ago. The Dillon family is thought of whenever the old pioneers of Adams county are mentioned. James Dillon, her husband, and two children survive her.
Lind Woman Fatally Burned
A disastrous fire occurred at Lind Thursday morning which entirely consumed the city residence of Mr. and Mrs. George Haller. Mrs. Haller was unable to escape from the building and perished in the flames.
Mr. Haller owns a ranch twenty miles northwest of Lind and was at the farm Thursday morning when the accident occurred, while Mrs. Haller and the five children were in the burning building. It was early in the morning and Mrs. Haller, following her usual custom, prepared to start the fire in the kitchen stove by pouring in a liberal supply of coal oil. The can exploded, throwing oil all over her person, and soon she was enveloped in a sheet of flame. She reached the door, which was locked, and being overcome by flames, she was unable to open it and sank down on the floor and perished.
Mrs. Haller was about forty years of age. The body, when recovered, was burned beyond recognition.
In the meantime the five children had left the burning building through another door and the baby was carried out safely by his 8-year-old brother. One of the older children was badly burned while attempting to rescue the mother.
Washington State Journal and Adams County News, Thursday, October 31, 1906, issue
A Serious Accident (Peter Teynor)
While driving six horses attached to a wagon and trailer loaded with wheat to this place last Tuesday, Peter Teynor was run over by two wheels of the wagon. He was walking beside the wagon driving the horses up a hill when the lead team became frightened at a motor-cycle, propelled by George Bauer of this city, swung around and caught him under the wheel. The wheels of the wagon ran over his stomach causing internal injuries from which he died three hours later.
He was taken to a near by ranch and his wife and Dr. Bice were called. The accident happened five mile east of the city.
The deceased owned a ranch twenty-five miles west of here near Menno, and was well liked by all who knew him. He was born in Crawford County, Wisconsin, April 19, 1874, and went to Austin, Minnesota, in 1893, coming to Adams County in 1901, where he has since resided. He was married to Miss Adda C. Willis, January 1, 1903. Besides his wife, who was with him when he died, he leaves a father and mother, one brother and two sisters in Wisconsin, two brothers in Calgary, Alberta, one brother in Dakota and a brother who lives near Menno. The funeral will take place from the Willis school house, Saturday, Nov. 3rd, burial in Spanjer cemetery, this city.
Lewis Moberly
Lewis A. Moberly, who used to work at painting in this place, died at St. Joseph Hospital, St. Paul, Minn., August 21, of typhoid fever. Before going east he had been working at Paha, and his brother, John Moberly of Lester, Iowa, thinks he left some personal belongings at his boarding place. In anyone who reads the Journal can give information in regard to them it will be appreciated if they will notify either W. C. Reeder or Rev. W. M. Protcor, Ritzville.
Mrs. Kendrick
Mrs. Kendrick died at her home near Lind on Saturday, Oct. 27, of typhoid fever superinduced by a rheumatic trouble of long standing. At her beside at her death were her three sons and two daughters. Mrs. Kendrick came to Adams county some years ago and finally settled on a homestead northwest of Lind where she died. She leaves four sons - two at home on the ranch, one at or near Medical Lake and the other at Seattle, - and two daughters - one the wife of Frank Richards at Fairview, and Miss Esta, who lives at home. Her husband died years ago, and she never remarried. The funeral was from the M. E. church in this city and was conducted by Rev. J. D. Bell of Lind. Interment was at the Ritzville cemetery, west of town.
Washington State Journal and Adams County News, Thursday, November 21, 1906, issue
F. H. Eggers
F. H. Eggres, who resided about fifteen miles west of town, was taken to the hospital in Spokane about three weeks ago suffering with acute stomach trouble, at the time thought to be cancer of the stomach. His failure to respond to treatment necessitated a surgical operation, which he underwent last Friday and resulted in his death on Sunday morning about 3 o'clock, his vitality being too low to successfully stand the operation and the anesthetic incident thereto.
His remains arrived here Sunday evening and the funeral was held from the Menno church at 11 o'clock this Wednesday, forenoon. Interment was in the Mennonite cemetery. Deceased leaves a wife and family of children to mourn their loss.
Laura Hobson
LIND - Miss Laura Hobson, niece of W. H. Merril, proprietor of the Commercial Hotel, died last week.
Washington State Journal and Adams County News, Thursday, November 28, 1906, issue
Death of Dr. Levi L. Sutton
Dr. Levi L. Sutton, a farmer and practicing physician, and one of the first settlers in that part of the country, died at his home, seven and one-half miles east of Hatton, Thursday, November 22, 1906. He was born in Orleans county, New York, September 1, 1835. His early education was secured in the schools of Laper, Michigan, and later he took a course in Rome academy. Upon arriving at his majority, he left school and engaged in teaching. Later he took up farming and practicing medicine. He had reputation as a physician in pneumonia and typhoid fever cases that might well be envied by any member of the medical profession.
In 1887 he came to Adams county, Washington, direct from the east, and settled where he lived up to the time of his death. He was the first settler in that township, and his was the first house to be built in that vicinity. There were no roads in that section of the county at that time, and the nearest water was distant eight miles. He first took a homestead and timber culture and improved these claims, then as circumstances permitted he purchased more land, until now his estate comprises a section and a quarter. His has one of the largest and handsomest houses in the vicinity. It contains fourteen rooms and is modern throughout. He raised a great quantity of fruit each year, and his wheat crop sometimes ran as high as 18,000 bushels in one year.
To Dr. and Mrs. Sutton were born four children - Elmer G. Sutton, now in Seattle; Ida B.
Hackett, now in Walla Walla; William J. Sutton, ex-principal of the normal school at Cheney, and Byron L. Sutton, now one of the largest farmers and land owners on Rattlesnake Flat.
Dr. Sutton was an active democrat, at the hands of which party in Michigan he held office seven years. In fraternal circles he was known as a member of the F. & A. M., and Mrs. Sutton is a member of the Eastern Star. Both were members of the Methodist Episcopal church.
Summoned Home
Miss Magdalena Achziger, daughter of Mrs. Kate Achziger of this city, died at 7 o'clock on last Thursday evening at the parental home on College Hill, aged 23 years and 8 months. The funeral was from the German Congregational Church of this city, Rev. K. L. Stahl officiating, assisted by Rev. F. Eggerlund. Miss Achziger was born in Russia and came to this country with her parents when but a little girl 3 years old. She had been in failing health for some time and only recently returned from quite an extended visit to the Sound country, where she went in search of health. Her death was caused by an aggravated attack of pneumonia, superinduced by a stomach trouble of long standing. She was an estimable young lady and leaves a large circle of friends to mourn over her taking away. She is survived by her mother, three brothers and three sisters.
Washington State Journal and Adams County News, Thursday, December 12, 1906, issue
Rev. J. B. Spight
HARRINGTON - News has been received here of the death of Rev. J. B. Spight at Hood River, Oregon, the latter part of November. Rev. Spight was the first pastor of the Baptish Church at this place and his death will be a shock to his many friends here. He is survived by a wife and two children.
J. H. Sharpe
J. H. Sharpe, the young man who was brought to town last week suffering with a complication of typhoid fever and other afflictions, died at his room in the Lee block on last Saturday.
He has a brother who is a cashier of a bank in Des Moines, Iowa, who has wired instructions to have the body embalmed. He leaves a wife in Stuart, Iowa. The funeral will take place from the M. E. Church and interment will be in the cemetery here. He was head miller at the Paha mills.
Adams Death
CUNNINGHAM - Grandma Adams of Leone Valley will be buried in the valley today, Wednesday, the first person to be buried in that vicinity. She leaves an aged husband and several children to mourn her loss. This aged mother, like a sheaf of ripened grain, has been gathered into the garner after a long useful life, one that was put in for the betterment of others. Her life was well spent, the world was made better, her works will live after her.
Lafe Koontz
Lafe Koontz, a well known young farmer of Lamona, died at Spokane Tuesday, Dec. 11th, with appendicitis. Mr. Koontz went to Spokane Thanksgiving on a visit to his father and mother.
While there he was taken ill and what the doctors pronounced to be appendicitis. He was operated on Sunday night, but died Tuesday morning. The remains were brought back to Lamona for burial.
Mr. Koontz was but twenty-three years of age at the time of his death, and was highly esteemed by all who had the pleasure of his acquaintance. He leaves beside his father and mother, four sisters and three brothers and a large circle of friends to mourn his departure.
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If you want to save your marriage you have a hard road ahead of you, but first take a hard look at the state of your marriage. Is this the person you want to be within five years? If your answer is no, you don't need to read any further. But if you want to know how to stop your divorce and save your marriage I am going to show you how to save your relationship.
Once you have decided that your marriage is worth saving, you can start to do the work that is necessary. Don't even think about going to the divorce lawyer anymore. You've made the commitment to stick with your relationship.
Now that you have put divorce out of your mind, accept that there will have to be changes in the relationship. If you want the relationship to work more than your partner does, then you are the one who is going to have to do the most changing. That's a simple fact. It is like the person who has the bigger aversion to messiness usually does the most cleaning around the house. The person who wants the relationship to work more will have to do the most changing.
You have to be prepared to talk more too. Set aside time to get to know your partner once again. If he or she has hobbies that they are willing to share with you, get involved even if you are not all that into anything that interests your partner.
If your partner is willing to agree to it, marriage counseling may be what you need to save your marriage. A relationship counselor or therapist will be able to look at your marriage from the outside, ask probing questions, and get you to open up to each other.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Once you have the "ideal" out of your head, you will be able to work on what is real and what is good. These are the standards you should be applying to your marriage.
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Anyone remember how insanely HOT Julia Roberts looked in "Pretty Woman"?
It's nice to re-watch this movie, partly to see her as a young soon-to-be star. In case you have forgotten, Richard Gere and Julia Roberts both look very good indeed in "Pretty Woman".
I have always loved this movie. The story, of course, is not very believable and it is quite predictable. Yet, millions of women bought into the cult of "Pretty Woman", and it has remained a popular "chick flick"!
Oh, Pretty Woman~
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Superstar Brad Paisley celebrates the 17th #1 single of his career as "Water" makes a splash atop the charts this week, becoming the fourth chart-topper from his "American Saturday Night" collection and his 13th consecutive #1 single.
Paisley's thirteen in a row - based on country airplay as charted by BDS or Mediabase - further extends his streak in music history, second only to the legendary Sonny James as the solo country artist with the most consecutive #1 singles in country chart history.
Fans can be watching for Paisley this weekend, as GAC re-airs the recent special, "Brad Paisley Underwater", offering a behind-the-scenes look at the making of his current H2O Tour and the special efforts to launch the tour on time after much of the tour gear was lost in Nashville flooding. The half-hour special, which premiered June 21, will re-air July 4 and 5, with complete airtimes on GACTV.com.
For all the latest news on Brad, visit him online at www.bradpaisley.com
Being in love with someone and not having that affection returned can be one of the most devastating experiences of your life. Love is a powerful emotion that shapes so much of our happiness that to have it rejected or ignored can be crippling. Desperate for relief, people will turn to any source available to help them find some sort of satisfaction.
One of the most popular ways to get guidance when it comes to love is through a qualified love psychic. Another way some people look for help is through ancient love spells believed for centuries to win the heart of an otherwise disinterested party. Understanding the difference between these two is very important. No matter how desperate you are for affection, the last thing you want to do is start meddling in people's lives in a potentially disruptive manner.
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When you enjoy a consultation with a professional love psychic, you become privy to a world of emotions and potential previously hidden away. Your psychic will use his natural talents to attune himself to your emotional state and pick up clues about the influences around you. From there, your psychic will be able to answer any questions you may have about your relationship and guide you in a direction that you will benefit the most from. Your energy becomes their road map and a skilled psychic has the potential to help you understand your motivations, your past, what waits for you in the future and why you troubled in this particular relationship. Massively rewarding, a consultation with a love psychic is something that you can do to improve yourself and your chances of finding true love in the future.
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On the other hand, a love spell is a far from rewarding experience. Most ancient faiths and traditions detail different love spells that are guaranteed to give you control over your loved one's heart. However, before you grab the chickens and white candles, you need to ask yourself if controlling your beloved is what you want. A love spell does nothing to help you grow as individual but rather help you to gain power over another person's life. This of course begs the question - is that what love means to you? Whether you believe these spells are effective or not, the fact of the matter is that you are willing to go through a most likely bogus conjuring act to win someone's affection. Perhaps what you should be concentrating on is your self. What put you in a state where you would rely on magic rather than reality?
We must learn to attract love rather than chase it. How do we attract it? By being lovable. To be loveable we must learn to love life and ourselves as much as we can. Learn. Experience. Feel joy. Feel pain. Help. Be helped. By living life to the fullest and following our passions we make ourselves infinitely entertaining to others and a pleasure to be around. A love psychic can help you on your way to knowing yourself better and as a result, attracting the kind of love that keeps the heart young. Now, doesn't that sound more interesting that huddling over some incense and ritually obsessing?
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Nobody asked me, but...
A very interesting e-mail was received from a lady called "Silk". It concerned her daughter who, when her daughter was far too young to understand what she was saying, her daughter talked about her "before" mommy": a woman who had been her mommy many years before she was born to Silk. The very young child described where she was living, what life was like, etc...all before she was born. If you have any interest in "past lives" I strongly recommend you read the blog at
http://thesilkentouch.blogspot.com/2009/01/2204-before-mommy.html
I have had some brief correspondence with "Silk" in the past. She impressed me as a completely honest person and an excellent writer. I do not believe anyone can read this blog without seriously questioning whether or not we have lived before...and will live again.
The concept of past lives is not a new one to my blog nor to my paranormal research.
A few months ago I wrote about a girl I hypnotized (she was about 17 years old at the time) at a party. Having been a recent reader of "The Search for Bridey Murphy" (detailed in another of my blogs), I thought I would try to regress her to a previous life. Hypnotists often regress their subjects back to their second or third birthday party and almost always get the names of the other children who attended, the presents they received, etc. Occasionally I would regress an older person back to their first grade in school and get them to talk about and describe their teacher and classmates..As a hypnotist, I have always felt that these events are stored in our computer-like brains and that hypnosis helps to bring these memories forward. One of the amazing characteristics of doing this is how the subject's voice raises in pitch and tries to emulate a child's voice often having difficulty pronouncing words as a young child may do.
Prior to this party, however, I had never tried to regress someone's memory to a time before they were born. I was a little apprehensive and a little excited to see what would happen. As I regressed her back into her mother's womb, the girl immediately assumed a fetal position with her arms wrapped around her legs. Then, as I regressed her further, she changed her position to that of an adult and smiled. In a voice quite unlike the one she had been speaking in earlier, she started speaking French!
She not only started speaking French (which I recognize from the few French phrases I know and that unmistakable French accent), but spoke it with such rapidity and fluency as to be quite proficient in the language. Fortunately, there was a woman at the party who said she spoke French fluently, but when I asked her to translate what the girl was saying, the woman told me there were too many words she did not understand because they were in an archaic form. Words that may have been used hundreds of years ago, but were no longer in common usage.
I carefully brought the girl forward to the present day and awakened her. She did not know what I was talking about when I asked where she learned to speak French. She was still in high school and the language she had been studying in school was Spanish!. Neither of her parents were French, nor had she, or her parents, ever been to France or any French-speaking countries...and she had no French-speaking friends or relatives. The young man that had brought her to the party became very nervous and upset and took her home. Unfortunately, I was never able to contact her to repeat the experiment or delve further into the situation. I did try the same experiment on a couple of other people, but got absolutely nowhere.
Of course, there was the classical case of Bridey Murphy where, under hypnosis a 100%American young woman from Madison, Wisconsin suddenly became an old Irish woman describing, in detail, where she lived near Cork, Ireland; what her house was like in Ireland, who her husband was...and even of witnessing her own funeral. Of course, the woman had never been to Ireland. If you haven't read my blog about Bridey Murphy, I suggest you do. I believe you will find it fascinating.
Past lives being revealed are not a new thing. There have been thousands of cases that appear to be strongly documented. I don't mean to be repetitious, but there will never be...can never be...the kind of scientific proof concerning past lives that I would like to see. How does someone prove what a life was like a hundred or two hundred years ago? How does one prove what the furnishings in a home were like when the home was destroyed hundreds of years ago? How does one prove that the language a person is speaking is the correct version of a language that became obsolete hundreds of years ago?
Of course it is difficult to know how a child of three or four could know about having to go outside to the yard to pump water to bring back into the house...or how people spoke and dressed hundreds of years ago...or how it is that she had to go to the "waiting place" before she was selected to be re-born. I'll grant you that some children are precocious, but I believe memories of this kind go far beyond just being precocious and are "cracks" in the walls between different dimensions that allow some things to slip through. As my own research has shown, these "cracks" usually close quickly.
If we read the original writings of Thomas Paine or Benjamin Franklin, we would have an extremely difficult time understanding it...language changes, meanings of words change. Situations and circumstances that may be referred to and gave certain words particular meanings have changed. It is not surprising when someone, in describing a past life, uses words and phrases we no longer understand.
As I have often said. If you do not believe something, no amount of proof will convince you. If you do believe something, no proof is necessary.
Explaining the "how" and "why" of past lives is one of the things I will go over many times in my blog. If any of my readers have had similar experiences, I will really appreciate you writing to me directly at stebre@aol.com.
As I said...nobody asked me.
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When you meet that one person in the world meant for you and the two of you start a relationship, the best thing you should do first is to define the relationship. Some would say that you should not put much energy into a relationship right at the start, you should just go with the flow but, if the relationship is to be a successful one you should shape it and mold it right from the start. That way you can see early on out what kind of a relationship it is and what kind it is going to be.
Successful relationships do not just happen. They are successful because they are built on several key factors. Mutual respect is a very important factor. Mutual respect for each other tends to lead to trust which is also so important in a relationship. Love is fickle but if you have the love, respect and trust you are on your way to having a successful relationship. Relationships that have all these things just make it look easy.
Another way to help define your relationship is to get to know each other so well that you know how the other will react to any given situation at any given moment. Remember the old Newlywed Game? I always liked that show because you could really tell the couples who knew each other and the ones who had a lot of work to do to get to know each other. I would get a really good feeling about the ones who answered all their questions correctly, you just knew they had a good foundation.
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Knowing what the other is thinking doesn't necessarily mean you have good communication skills. Although it does help, good communication skills take some time and effort to acquire. You are not just born with them. Having and using effective communication skills means you are able to take the other person's feelings and opinions into consideration without getting angry and lashing out.
Being able to make small decisions well makes it easier when having to make the bigger decisions down the road. A truly good relationship will start with how good each individual is. I don't mean good versus bad, I mean how mature, responsible, good communication skills. If each person brings those attributes to the relationship then the overall relationship will be better more often than not.
You hear all the time that good relationships are made up of good communication skills, but what the heck does that mean? Does it mean you know how to talk circles around your partner? No, of course not. It means that you can listen to each other with respect, you don't jump on every little thing that they say and that you learn how to accurately communicate your point without belittling your partner. Learn to do that and the two of you are on your way to having a good relationship.
We are definitely a society that needs for things to be spelled out and defined. It just seems to make people more comfortable when things are very clearly spelled out. when it comes to your relationship it's important to make sure that you each know what you want and what you don't want, figuring that out is how you best define your relationship.
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Summer is here, and many of us still have that inconvenient layer of winter fat and we're now wondering how many extra trips to the gym it will take to get rid of it. And it's not just winter fat, either. Stress, pregnancy, etc., can put a major whammy on women, who are especially troubled right now because bikini season is here! What do you do when she gains a few pounds? Inquiring minds want to know, at least if they ever hope enjoy being married again...
That's right, it's past time to shed that winter insulation and get into bikinis, volleyball, backyard barbecues, and all those other fun activities that require baring skin, and exposing your jelly belly if you picked one up through the winter. Here's a typical letter about this most common problem, and a very sticky one to say the least. Meet Tia:
Dear David,
I need your help. The past few months I have put on a few extra pounds due to a medication that I have to take for my asthma. Everybody tells me that they don't notice it and I look good, but to me I feel like the Goodyear blimp and have no desire to be intimate with my husband at all because I'm embarrassed over having curves in places that were flat. The more he tries to tell me I look sexy the more his advances just make me feel pressured, and I hate feeling under pressure this way. It has nothing to do with not loving him or not wanting to enjoy each other the way we always have. We have always been very in touch with each other and being together in the bed was always one of the best parts.
I was hoping you could give me some advice as to how I could bring this up with him. I want him to understand just how awful I feel I look and how it has nothing to do with him at this point.
Thank you,
Tia
"Tia, I'm going to make this really easy for you, because it's such a great question. Just print this and let him read it, because I'm going to tell him and all the other men about this. He won't know it's you unless you tell him because I've changed the name to protect your privacy."
Get ready guys! Pay close attention, take notes, and make sure you fully understand what you're about to read. This is some of the most critical information to ever appear in this newsletter and you need to get this down pat and cold, right now, because sooner or later, virtually EVERY woman will experience a bit of weight gain that makes her uncomfortable with her appearance, and consequently, with YOU.
If you've read "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," you know about the difference in the male and female brain structure. Aside from making our communications styles and methods grossly different, it also makes women visualize, emotionalize and even dramatize to the extreme compared to males.
You also must remember that nearly all of the advertising in the fashion and beauty industries is designed to prey upon a woman's sense of competitiveness to make her feel insecure about her appearance. Women are literally bombarded with this crap everywhere they look, and while you or I probably wouldn't even notice a little weight gain until we had to loosen our belt a notch or sew a button back on our trousers that had popped off, to them a pound or two can be nearly or wholly traumatic, especially if they've taken pride in a flat stomach for a long time.
We often respond to this by telling them that they look "fine, sexy, hot," etc., and that is precisely the wrong thing to do. Why?
She knows what she sees in the mirror, and thinks that you see what she sees in the mirror. If she thinks she looks fat and you say she looks sexy, all that says to her is that either you're lying or your standards are really, really low. Don't go there, even if you really think she looks better with a couple of extra pounds because you like the curves, and whatever you do, DON'T tell her you like the new curves! That can get you killed, because in her ears, that's, "But honey, I like you better when you're fat like this." (Ladies, you are cordially invited to write in and tell the men just that - I'll reprint your letters so the men will know just how serious an issue this is.)
"SO WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO DO? "
You'd already know this, too, if you had read "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," because you wouldn't be making those kinds of advances and doing really stupid things like asking her to have sex with you. You'd be tripping her attraction triggers with alpha male behavior, naughty talk and gestures, and making her have fun and get so hot that she doesn't concern herself with her additional weight because she'd still feel sexy and desirable, and she'd be coming after YOU! (See Jay's letter in the archive for an example, because he's got it down cold.)
When you know what a woman wants, what makes her tick, how to both listen and talk to her, and how to have fun with her, she doesn't feel like a middle-aged housewife that can't compete with the 20-somethings anymore. She feels like a real queen who rules the world at your side by day and a red hot vixen by night, keeping that naughty little secret for you and you alone because you create it for her. There's a time and place, not to mention a right way and a wrong way, for everything, and that includes delivering genuine, honest compliments.
That, Gentlemen, is how a real man makes a real woman feel, and that is what you learn when you read "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage." So how many more times are you going to have to stick your foot in your mouth and spend the night in the doghouse before you go to http://www.makingherhappy.com/ and download your copy? Go now, and get it done, because there are far better things to do with your feet (and your mouth!).
In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!
David Cunningham"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
Free dating sites are undoubtedly very lucrative today. The industry is fast expanding as well, as many brand new companies who offer the same services get introduced every so often. Some of the sites that have been around for a while have become stronger, have offered new features and have expanded their possibilities. At the same time, new companies have become more advanced to be able to compete with the big sites and veterans in the industry.
Online dating services have grown in the recent years primarily because newer companies, in hopes of attracting more customers to choose their site, now offer free memberships. They offer similar services, though most do not offer as much features as that of paid sites. However, the services of these free sites are usually comparable to that of paid sites. Considering that they are free, they may be worth trying out.
With all the tight competition coming from big companies, you might probably wonder how free dating sites will be able to persist in this industry. You may wonder how they are able to manage to stay profitable. Since their services are free, people oftentimes wonder if there is a catch once they join. The good news is that most sites do offer good services for free. If you choose well, that is.
Conversely, free dating sites offer a different appeal to many people. People who have not tried online dating before and who are apprehensive about trying them out now have means to try it out risk-free. If you are not sure whether Internet dating is right for you, you can simply sign up in one of these free sites and try it out for yourself.
Most of those who are newbies in online dating are hesitant to give out their personal information, more so their credit card numbers, most especially to online companies which are not established or known. This is quite understandable considering how there are a lot of scam-filled sites today. For this reason, many new users resort to free dating sites instead. This way, you will be able to comfortably sign up knowing that your critical personal information do not have to be revealed nor registered.
Now moving on to the other side of the equation, how can free sites become profitable if they do not charge any fees? Well, these sites usually bank on the idea that since their site is free, more and more members will be willing to sign up with them. The more members they have, the more traffic they get, making them more appealing to advertisers. It is through advertising that they get most of their income.
Needless to say, this strategy can prove advantageous especially for smaller free dating sites who would like to start small and make their own imprint in this bid industry. It also benefits many online users who would like to try out online dating without the risks associated with it. This is basically a win win situation for both parties.
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When I wrote the original "Home Wreckers" article, I didn't expect such a wide range of perspectives. There were strong and emotionally drained women who shared their thoughts on the topic. I even had a dude chime in. There were also some unnecessary bickering among them over what's right, what's wrong, and what's logical. So I figured it's time for me to address all the views that were expressed in the comments on the original post.
My original intention in writing the article was to express what I've learned from my experience in such situations, which I conveniently called being the "home wrecker". A more suitable label is probably "Inconsiderate Person", "Selfish Individual", or "Non Empathetic Human". But somehow that term "Home Wrecker" is more to the point on the damage that is triggered by such behavior. I use the label only as a term to identify the situation, not to judge. Most of us use it to describe a person who knowingly pursues (romantically or sexually) someone who is in a committed relationship. But it's too hard to say "lookit's that inconsiderate-person-who-knowingly-pursues-someone-who-is-in-a-committed-relationship bitch". Yup, that good ol' term "home wrecker" just does it much more efficiently for most of us.
Although my original post was about the woman who is a home wrecker, I realize that there are male home wreckers as well (one of which has triggered the breakdown of my own marriage). But this blog is mostly about helping the female find perspective in life, so I address most of my articles to them.
In the home wrecking scene, there are 3 main players: the home wrecker, the cheater or potential cheater, and the person committed to the cheater or potential cheater. This is my quick assessment of the situation: ALL THREE PLAYERS PLAY EQUAL PARTS IN MAKING THE HOME WRECKING SCENE. This is just my opinion, and I feel qualified in making such a statement after having played all three roles in my life. I realize that this might not be a popular point of view, considering the amount of blame that was going back and forth on the comments. But remember, this is just my perspective for the purpose of giving you perspective.
The feedback on the previous article has revealed to me the extent of psychological damage a home wrecker can trigger. Many of the readers expressed their anguish and hurt. A couple of them went so far as to write into their comments specific names of people who have hurt them. To those ladies, I know it really sucks to be on that end of the situation, but I want you realize that your focus should be on your recovery, not on those who triggered the hurt. It's probably not the best of time for me to tell you that you played an equal part in your hurt, but hear me out. I'm not here to judge anyone or tell anyone they're wrong or lay any blame. My whole blog is dedicated to giving you, the hurt female, a different way of looking at things so you can move on from your hurt and find joy in things. The other two players have hurt you deeply, and in a way that you can't logically explain. You don't have to explain yourself. Go ahead and process the hurt because you deserve your time to heal. But somewhere in the back of your mind, just tuck away the idea that no one can truly hurt you except yourself (physical harm of course being the exception). We go through life thinking that we deserve honesty and respect, especially from those we are intimate with. But when we are treated with clear disrespect for our boundaries, we become frustrated and threatened of losing what we thought we deserved. Our focus then turns to blame because we aren't ready to turn inward to process the hurt. And that's OK. When you're ready, and only when you're ready, take a good look at your own life and how it led up to the home wrecking scene. Look at your choice in partners, look at the company you keep, look at the boundaries you've set, look at the lessons learned from previous relationships, look at where you've been, and finallylook at where you want to be. It's all part of figuring out who you are. I know I say this a lot on my posts, but you'll have to trust me on thisonce you've figured that all out or at least come close to it, you will never find yourself in a home wrecking scene again. You're in more control of the situation than you think. Remember that you can't feel threatened if you're with someone who gives you no reason to feel threatened. Trust your gut and figure out why you're threatened.
I didn't have anyone claim that they were the cheater or potential cheater, but I have some words for you guys that might help the other two players understand you a bit more. In most cases, it's not a case of wanting to have your cake and eat it. It's a matter of not being fulfilled in life. You are clearly confused about what you want. On one hand, you want a committed relationship. And on the other hand, you want something that violates that committed relationship. If you don't want a committed relationship, don't lie to others saying that you do. And for Pete sakes, don't lie to yourself because you're only going to burden yourself with guilt and confusion. It's OK to admit you may have made a mistake in making a commitment. It's OK to seek help if you think you've got a wandering eye. Realize one thing. Unless what your partner wants is a confused, sniveling cheat, you are not doing anyone any favors by keeping things hush hush, especially your going ons with the home wrecker. It really doesn't matter if you haven't had sex with the home wrecker. Do you or don't you want a committed relationship? If the answer is yes, then tell the home wrecker to f**k off. It's that simple. I don't care if she boosts your ego. I don't care if you get along superbly with her. Let it goand do the mature thing for all. You're not fooling anyone by saying "She's just a friend" You suck and you know it. Your partner is asking for respect for the relationship, and you're not giving that to her by presenting this threat to her. Even if you have no intention of cheatingeven if it's illogical that your partner should feel any threat by your "friendship".you need to consider your partner's feelings. Part of a committed relationship is to be considerate of your partner's feelings. Is your "friend" really more important than honoring your relationship? Once you've decided that you've found the person you want to commit to, you need to make room for the process of finding joy in that relationship. Your commitment can bring you the long term joy that you will never find in the quick ego boosts, so stick with it. If you have your doubts about having made the right choice, then you better take a really hard look at that. Let go of the committed relationship if that's not the right person for you. Reallydon't force a square peg into a round hole. It's also HIGHLY unlikely that the home wrecker is the one for you, because both of you are unstable. Of course, if you know you're not confused and you know you just want to manipulate everyone to get what you want, then you're a jerk so get lost. There's nothing that any of us here can do for you.
Then there's the final player: the home wrecker. One lady proclaimed she was a home wrecker, but was not at all remorseful of it. She saw absolutely nothing wrong in pursuing men in committed relationships, and actually found it to be sort of a sport. Well that one nearly knocked me off my chair. I didn't expect that. Although I don't agree with her that there is nothing wrong with her "sport", she did have a good point that the relationships that she can damage are caused by the the weaknesses in those relationships. But of course she is the exception to the general role of a home wrecker. As I mentioned in my previous post, the home wrecker usually doesn't realize she's a home wrecker. She just thinks she's in love and can't stop thinking about him. To those ladies, here are my words of perspective. Love yourself first and foremost. The love you think you'll find in a man who is committed to someone else is not love for yourself. It's escaping the hard fact that you aren't happy with your own life. Maybe you love the commitment he has for his partner, and maybe you want some of that for yourself. Maybe you are looking to see if you can get him to jump when you say jump for a quick ego boost. Maybe you love the secret rendezvous that makes you feel really special. It's all smoke and mirrors. He's either a jerk, or a very confused man, and you don't want any of that if you want to have a healthy view of yourself. You're not special to him. He is not treating you with the respect you think you're getting from him. You're just a crutch for the disabilities of his committed relationship. You don't see it now, because you're in the midst of it. But try stepping away from it to clear your head. Momentum in the wrong direction can always be reversed if you just stop to seek direction. Please please please leave it. Have some dignity and respect the protocol of a committed relationship. The sooner you give respect to the committed relationship, the sooner you'll find yourself in one.
Everyone is finding their way in life. All three players of the home wrecking scene are looking for their answers, and they happened to have crossed each other's path in a time when they don't know their way. Some will find their way, others will remain stuck in their patterns. No one owes anyone anything, and yet we all have to live with each other in the universe. Let's all realize the connection of everything and work with the flow instead of forcing things to work together. I may be right or I may be wrong in what I have just told you, but just chew on what I said for a little. Here's what really counts, that you see there is more to life than just your perspective. Blaming is a mask for your own confusion.
